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Here I am! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
Just wanted to let my MB family know that I am doing great! Yes, me personally. I got another year older (when can I stop counting?) and the sun still comes up in the east every morning and sets in the west every night, albeit a little later in the morning and sooner in the evening with the approach of winter. Things are really busy with kids school and activities, but thats ok, because they are the center of my life and I am doing everything I can to give them things they deserve. The economy here is in the crapper, lots of companies going out of business, lay-offs, foreclosures and people moving out, but my profession seems to be on the upswing, work is very busy and I have been working a lot of OT which helps the ol’ checking account out a lot.
My car has been giving me some problems but I have managed to find the money and get it fixed. Oldest D tells me I should sell it and buy a new one, that way when she gets her drivers license, she can have a nice car. I tell her (to which she rolls her eyes) that with all the money I am spending to fix it, it will last another 20+ years, and besides, when I got my license, all I had to choose from was a ’72 pickup and a ’75 Fury III station wagon (with wood paneling) so I am just passing on a family tradition. Oh how she loves to her those stories of the ‘olden days’!
As far as WW, well that’s another story. There was an incident last Wed that was very, very serious. I cant give details, but suffice to say she almost lost everything. I was ready to file legal papers to get sole custody from the kids, but God told me to wait and I am glad I did because the next day, WW called me and asked me to get her some help, that she is completely out of control. I got her an appt with a doctor and she is on what looks to be the right kind of medication for her condition. WW is very depressed, despondent and up until last week, drinking heavily. Hopefully this is the bottom for her. I told her that this is it, any more incidents and she is out, and she acknowledged that. I have enough evidence to use against her that if I wanted to, I could probably take everything from her. But, she is trying, the A is finally over and she seems to be done with OM completely, not sure if all contact is finished, but I get the feeling it is.
I gave the apt place my 30 day notice and I am supposed to move back in at the end of this month. The deal was that I was going to finish a room in the basement and move in there. WW is supposed to get a permit for it and give me some ideas on what to do, but so far nothing, even though I have asked her many times so I can get started and be done when the end of the month finally arrives. Yesterday WW asked me to do something for her (she asks me for a lot of things) and I said “You know, WW, its funny how you are always asking me for things, almost like you are getting all the benefits of an exclusive, committed relationship, even though I don’t live here anymore or get any of the benefits of the relationship.” To which she replied “Well, technically, we are still married”. This is the complete opposite of 6 mos ago when WW told me that she can still see OM because we are legally separated and the M is just a technicality. Hmmmm.
DDay is in a few weeks( 9/29) and I thought I would start to get jittery the closer it came, but the opposite seems to be true. Its almost like I am finding strength in that day, like that day is pulling me forward and renewing my resolve to fight the good fight and persevere. I guess it just takes a lot of faith, time, patience, MB and the great people here at these boards.
Until next time, take care, I love all of you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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LHS,
Good to hear from U!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
You sound much stronger. Your personal recovery seems to be doing well. Pulling for your M recovery but know it will take your W a whiles to get there.
take care and keep us posted!!!
L.
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Great to hear from you and that you are far from being an emotional basketcase like your WW.
Please correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't she had a restraining order against you? If so, has she removed it? You don't want to be in violation of it and be a weapon she could use against you if she wanted to divorce you and take the house and the kids away from you.
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The temporary RO never became permanent because that would have required WW to prove her accusations. But, my attorney (an me) agreed that it wouldn’t be a good idea to move back in at that time because of the emotionally charged environment and how easily WW could have done filed more legal actions against me, unfounded or not. Since then, a lot has happened and I know for a fact that if WW were to do something similar, I could very easily counter-file with the information at my disposal, especially after last week. That’s not something I think about right now, I just want her to get the help she needs and get better for her and the kids sake.
Yes, WW is a basket case and I think a lot of it has to do with withdrawal from OM and the realization of how much she has screwed up so many lives. Hopefully this is the final stages of it and last week was the bottom for her. She seems to be doing a bit better, hopefully she continues climbing out of the hole she has dug for herself. I am just going to stand back and see what happens, maybe something will start between us again, maybe not. Either way, I’m fine with it. We have been spending quite a bit of time together and things for the most part are going well, have to wait a bit longer and see.
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