Okay, funk. Here's what was right/wrong with your post:
"After a short separation I moved back home at WW request on 8-5-02."
This was a good thing.
"WW said she really wants to make things work this time, WW said “ I know we can make it if we follow the Harley principles’ We have had 3 sessions with Jennifer Chalmbers."
More good stuff.
"Now tonight we went out for a nice dinner and on the way home she says she wants a Divorce."
Not so good stuff, but:
"I am beside myself. I told WW that I am disappointed and if she wants a divorce not expect any help from me."
Partially good, partially bad. You should do all you can to be loving. When my W says stuff like this (thankfully, not DV, though), I don't respond or I change the subject.
"So I have been home for 5 weeks and she is throwing in the towel. I am so mad right now I see red."
Just so's you don't TELL her this. Okay?
"WW says she loves me as a friend and that I am her best friend but she is not in love with me."
Nothing unusual here. You need to EARN her love back, as she does you.
"I Think she is still in Contact with OM. The first couple of weeks WW was upbeat and positive ever since then WW attitude has gone down hill."
This may be, but what will you do about it? Do you want to "win" her back, or send her away? My W is still in contact with Rat Meat, after not seeing him in person for over 10 months. I am working on US, not him.
"The past 2 weeks WW has been up to some shady activity. 1 hour late home from work and wont answer the cell phone. WW has been asking to be alone and she needs her space."
Sounds like plan A time, to me.
"Goes out for happy hour and doesn’t come home until 11:30PM."
Go with her!!
"These things are just some of the shady things WW has been doing. WW says she will not stay in a loveless marriage and she wont stay out of guilt. I then asked her what is love. WW says love is intangible."
Does she mean, like "you can't cut it with a fork?" Love IS tangible. Talk 2 her, talk 2 Jen about this.
"I said are you sure your not talking about romantic love VS Mature love, WW says no she knows what love is. I don’t know what I should do from here."
WORK with her! Work with Jen. This isn't over yet.
I believe your W loves you. She's just confused, still. You can't convince her you love HER by LBing. It's that simple.
Take care, Funk Family!!
