Wow, it's been a year. I even forgot my p-word and registered again. Same ****, different year. Those of you who remember me might have figured the same. I dropped out and fell back into my private second life. Back then I said "being with the kids is the most important thing"...and now I believe it really is.

Pre-EA/PA..I though differently. I figured the children would be better off with divorced parents than the ones they had before. But then, after 8 months of separation, I came to the conclusion that the kids and I neeed each other more than I needed a normal life. OW agreed to hang on, even tho I gave her the biggest talk of her life...told her I was going back to BS and going to be an active parent....she said she'd wait....I thought It'd be for a year or year and a half...so I am here. 9 months after telling OW I was moving back home. Even bought a new house with BS...Life is strange. Cannot totally connect with BS...feeling increasingly distant from OW. Go figure...Hey...any BS's out there who really wish bad things against WS's...just know...
It can happen...it is NOT all good.

Myabe I will be back...don't know. If you are reading Jo, I hope all is well.

BH

My H said that he was just staying for the kids... to be an 'active' co-parent... he said that time and time again over the last year.

But, he has renewed his relationship with God... with NO pressure from me, btw... (just lots of prayer <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) and what a difference...

pastor is doing a series on marriage... and H is listening... I have been asking for US to go to some classes... some seminars... to learn to be married and reconnect... and he just shined me off... you know... "I'm here to be a parent."

so today he says, "You know what pastor said about reconciliation... that it's not over... that two people can reconnect? Maybe we can go to a class on marriage...."

...all I'm saying badhubby is that if you want things to be different... it may have to start with you...

Good luck,
Cali

Thanks for the input Cali, input is why I came here in the first place...last year and this year. I might not have followed the advice, but I have always remembered it...