This may not be the place for this on these boards but i wanted to share it and maybe it can help someone else also. My WW and I had a really bad day in recovery yesterday. I thought i had been doing a good job of Plan "A" and trying to meet her needs.....turns out that she didn't think that i was doing as well as i thought i was
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So i am thinking about this and wondering how to get feedback from her and try to do better. I decide i will make a game out of it and we will both "play" !!
Here's the game. We were in bed cuddling and we were not at all upset with each other. I asked her to play this game with me...she looks at me weird. The game is this. Answer the following quesion..."I Love it when you _________ to/for me !" You then take turns filling in the blank. It's kinda fun. You then can learn what fills their tank/turns them on/deposits love units ! Then if things are still really good....you can reverse it and say "I wish you would _______ !" OR you could see what needs improvement..."I don't like it when you ___________"
Maybe sounds corny, but it does give you a chance to see how you are doing AND gives you feedback on what they are liking or NOT liking about your plan "A" !! Make sure that you WS is in the right mood however or it could be a diaster !!
Good luck to each and everone of us ! Add your feed back after you try it or add more questions that worked for you !!
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