My thanks to Nick123,Jamup, Pepperband, and princess0413, all your help has been greatly appreciated,pepperband, yes i have kids,one daughter, and a stepson,and yes, he is part of the problem, or should i say, yes again, me,it was and still is kind of tough having a ready made family.i made that list you told me about,it wasnt very long, my wife is an easy going person,and the things i came up with, i read them after i was done, and wouldnt you know it,they all sounded so familiar,lets see, where have i heard that before, ah yes, she told me a long time ago, heard, but i guess i didnt listen,princess, your ideas are very good, thank you once again, all.i will continue to post here, and hopefully, with Gods help, and alot of patience on my part, and understanding from my wife, the posts will keep getting better and better, i would sometime like to post THE WHOLE STORY,but for the moment,i want to concentrate on showing her how much i care.once again, thanks all

Joe, we all have screwed up ... but what we do with ourselves after we realize we've screwed up is even more important than the original screw up!

Have a great day. Relax, and open yourself up to the lessons you have the opportunity to learn at this time.

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Joe, Pepper is right, we have all screwed up. Enjoy your time at home with your wife. Try to make the most of your "already made family". They really are a blessing. I hope things go well this week for you. Be sure that when she comes home from work, or from shopping, you give her a hug and kiss, just because. I've always loved that.

This is a great place to come for support. When you have more time, and if you'd like, I'll post some links to my history that may help. It will at least show you that you can succeed. A year ago I never thought DH and I would be where we are today.

Take care, and good luck to you.