Oh my gosh! I just saw a response from you on another thread. I saw your sig. line and the reason for the change. This is so wonderful. I am so happy for you. I know you are still going to be cautious, but know this is a huge step for you two and I just wanted to say I am so happy for you.

Here's to many more steps in the right direction! My best to you. Take care.

Thanks, Princess Tutter!

Yes, it is a turning point, I believe. Her feelings for him are still quite strong, and we are in for a possibly long time of withdrawal.

I know we are nowhere near out of the woods yet, but this sure beats where we were 3 months ago.

She has asked me *not* to contact the OM, unless she requests it. Grr. She is a bit scared of retaliation from him, and has even discussed a restraining order. I would love to have a word with him, if you know what I mean. Just explain to him the facts of life, you know? Out of respect for her, I have not contacted him in any way since that one phone call 2-3 weeks after D-Day.

I think she is beginning to realize what a total loser he is. He has been fired from his last two jobs, he was dishonorably discharged from the Navy for drugs, he is major league behind in child support, he is in arrears with student loans, and, LASTLY, he got mixed up with an emotionally vulnerable MARRIED woman!!!

I am angry with the OM, but am beginning to see him as a tragic figure rather than some monster.

God bless my beautiful WW!!

NSST

I am so very happy for you. I can understand her request for you not to contact him. I guess it's like, let's be done with him. I'm breaking away from that, I have said my peace, now let's focus on US. I know it's hard to do, and there probably is a little part of you that wants revenge, but what will that bring you. The sweetest revenge will be the success in your marriage.

Remember my sig. quote - "Be strong, stay true, but remember it's ok to feel weak sometimes." I think this can apply especially for you in those moments when you desire to "give him a word or two".

I wish you all the best. Take care, and good luck.