I said this on D-Day #5, then on D-Day #6 "there won't be another". But W always said she was done with OM each time. This time, after denying contact last Monday in MC session, she admitted the OM called her and told her how much she was hurting him and how much she used him blah..blah..blah. Her IC told her OM was holding her "emotionally hostage" and she was the only one that could break free. W says she loves me very much and doesn't want DV and will "try" to not answer phone any more.
I have heard this over and over and over again until I get so sick I almost BARF. Her IC has told her again and again to TELL ME when these calls happen but she says she is "terrified to tell me fearing a DV". Her IC told her "that is the chance you must take but NOT communicating is wrong". I told her MANY times in the past that I want and NEED to know when she gets these calls so I can support her and help her with the problem. She need NOT fear DV as long as she doesn't lie and cover up. W knows this and has been told this many times.
Now I am seriously thinking about contacting OM to find out if these conversations are the truth OR has W talked more than she let on....
TRUST...TRUST...WHERE FOR ART THOU???