It's been a while since I've posted. I stopped talking to ex boyfriend about a month ago, when my husband moved home from his summer job. Some quick history: H away for summer job, saw exbf out one night, started talking, met a few times, got all confused about old feelings, cut it off before anything serious happened. I don't think about him anymore AT ALL!

When I cut it off, we met one last time and I told him this was it, I couldn't continue to be secretive and to please honor my wishes. I told him to not contact me. He said, please keep in touch, but he'll let me contact him when I'm ready. I had the intention of never contacting him again. If me contactng him was what he wanted to hold out for, that was his own fog. So we parted. He has contacted mne twice now. Both times through e-mail. The first was a BS reason/excuse just to get me to respond. I deleted the e-mail. This morning was the second time. I haven't been to work since Monday, so it sat here for a few days, but he asked me to write just to say hello. He said he was going "crazy". Tough s**t, I say. He's disrespecting me!

I deleted it before I thought to block the email address. Now I can't block it.

I guess why I'm writing is to vent and to ask any OP why is he still contacting me???? And do I need to tell him now after two contact attempts that I am REALLY serious about leaving me alone?

I am pissed and really just disgusted. He's so selfish to think he can walk back into my world any time he wants to.

Please give me something guys!

Thanks.

~birdie

This is tough.

Your feelings are telling you to go and "tear him a new one." I can understand!

On the other hand, it is your attention that he wants and if you do contact him, he'll have gotten it.

On the third hand, if you don't say anything, he'll probably "probe" you like this from time to time. Hoping you're alone, or unhappy, or weak at that moment. With e-mail, this is especially easy to do... you will be in his address book forever.

Since this is your work e-mail, maybe you could get your e-mail address changed? Depending on your situation, this might be a big deal or not. So, if your name is "Jen" you could have your e-mail address changed from "Jen.Smith@mycompany.com" to "Jennifer.Smith@mycompany.com". If you only use e-mail within your company, that wouldn't be too big of a deal...your new name would show up in the directory, so your co-workers could still write you.

If this is possible, just find out who administers your email and tell them that you are receiving "unsolicited" email and leave it at that.

Otherwise, you can wait for the next one, and block his e-mail address then.

Bottom line: if he receives no attention from you, he'll probably go away. And if you can use technological means so that you aren't aware of it, then it'll be easier on you.

ditto Riff's reply

I just wanted to say "you go girl"! You're totally in the right mind-set... This guy is trying to lead you into quicksand.

Thanks for you replies. I realize that this problem pales in comparison with others.

What gets me is that this guy can be such a sweetheart. It infuriates me that he would be so disrespectful. But I realize that I allowed him to be that way when I met him out behind my H's back.

Argh! And I thought this was all behind me... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />