My kids are all gone and this is the first night I have been home all week and can say that I am appreciating being alone.

Done watching Reba.........she handles everything with such class in that show, I really get a kick out of the program.

But now I find that I am bored, and last time I allowed this to happen I called STBX for pure entertainment purposes and chewed him up one side and down the other for not being able to send more money for kids!!! The funny part was that you could hear her in the background nagging him!!! Once I thought how sad for the guy, but I got over that thought quickly. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

So that is what I am doing on a Friday night!! Guess I could get the checkbook out and log some of those debit purchases and see how much money I have til next payday!! That could be depressing though and not much fun!!! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Hope everyone is having a good Friday night with whatever they are doing!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ September 14, 2002, 11:54 PM: Message edited by: daybreak ]</small>

I'm lurking tonight. H is working, one child is in bed and the other is about to go. I'm relaxing and catching up on my MB reading and posting. Did the checkbook thing earlier today at work, ugh.

With love,

I'm sitting here by my lonesome surfing the internet. What a grand way to spend a Friday night, eh? My weekend actually starts in the morn this Saturday and is dominated by my daughter coming home from college. She returns on Sunday whereas my sunshine will be gone......... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

<small>[ September 13, 2002, 11:19 PM: Message edited by: GeezLouise ]</small>

GEEZ,

Haven't seen you for awhile how are things going with you?

Miss you around here!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Geez,

I have to say I love your signature line--I know it's serious, but I laugh everytime I see it. Reminds me of telling my boys to quit picking their noses because they're going to make them bleed again. I know it's gross, but when you have two boys you have to be gross sometimes or they'll make you sick, lol. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Ah, all kids are snuggled in and I'm back to reading and posting for a while.

Well, it's not Friday anymore, but last night I went to a social for my H's work. FOW not there, but her H (she's married since the A, to my H's good friend, another co-worker) was there without her, without his wedding ring.

I heard a bit of gossip (so hard not to listen!) that FOW is terribly insecure about her H's ex-wife...what? The FOW has marital problems? And she knew so much about marriage when she was "helping" my H...a little bad karma? Oh yeah, and sending your H to parties alone really bolsters a marriage <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> , that was one of my long ago mistakes.

Actually, I hope they stayed married forever and work this out, I don't want her cruising again.

There's a banquet tonight, same group, if you don't mind, say a little prayer I don't find myself in the ladies room (or anywhere) alone with her. Baring that, I know I can successfully ignore her presence. And, I WILL be gorgeous <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .

Lor,

Just got home from Deadwood jam, awesome music!!

Hope you had a good night and I wont have to come done to county jail to see you!!! No bathroom run ins I hope!!!

Haven't heard from STBX since Monday when he demanded we get this over ASAP. I had a suggestion for getting this taken care of and attached it to an email and he was unable to read so Wed he asked me to paste into email and finally did last night, but nothing notta from him. I have had the papers 2 weeks now, so don't know if he went to take it to court now or not am a little afraid that he might have, I really didn't want that to happen, I won't get the things that we had asked for.

I so want to mess with the OW just a little bit and roock her boat so that she will LB all over him!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Just because I want something doesn't mean that I get it thouog!!!! I'm not rocking anything!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

It's late and I need to get to bed!!!

Hope you had a good night!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ September 15, 2002, 09:00 PM: Message edited by: daybreak ]</small>

^^Bump^^ for Lor in the morning!!!

I have a question for anyone out there that is in a relationship with someone that has an ex-wife ..... I have been in my current relationship for 13 months and it's been great. Recently, a problem has arisen with his teenage daughter and he and his wife have been talking more because they want to work out a solution that will help their daughter. Now, it's great that they are trying to work on a solution together, but I can't help but feeling jealous - even though he assures me that he loves me very much. His ex-wife is in a relationship with someone else (that's what broke up his marriage), but she has indicated to him that she is not happy with this guy. Any advice on how I can stop feeling jealous - I really do want his daughter to get help, and I'm not sure what I can do to help myself to stop feeling the way that I do. Any thoughts???

Riley,
I have no experience with exs. Your post might get more notice or a better response if you start your own thread, so that people notice the topic, like "dealing with ex-wife". Also, the Divorced/Divorcing forum may have more insight.

Dawn,
The FOW did a professional no-no, at least in my H's eyes. It was a military formal dress banquest, she chose to be a "spouse" (her H was in uniform). I imagine that is so she could wear her short, tight skirt (underwear lines showing), high heels and hair down to her butt. But I happen to know my H despises it when military females, even if spouse is military, aren't PROUD to wear the uniform. In fact we had a discussion about it last spring when another female co-worker did this. I never said a word about her to him, but since H is up her chain of command (hmm, why does that sound bad?), I know it will have bugged him.

I ignored her completely. But one of the other wives pointed her out to me, asked if I knew who she was, she said, "Oh my, that one's looking for some attention." I helpfully added, "I wonder why she isn't in uniform." Just in case no one else had that thought....

The banquet was dull, but we went over to friends afterwards, and had a great time.

I need to stop dreading seeing the FOW. She's such a loser.

But Lor,

You handle in situation with such class. But I agree you shouldn't dread it, look at it as an opportunity to shine in your husbands eyes!!!

Did talk to STBX last night, he was setting in his car returning my call. How sad!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

We talked about papers and he will re write the decree and share with me before giving it to idiot guy (lawyer) and I will re write the MPDO and share with him before it going to the lawyers. Still d on't see this happening before the end of the month again!!!! Shucky darn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Gald I didn't have to county lock up to see, but knwe I wouldn't, you have to much class to let her get you in that manner!!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Daybreak,
Since the D timeline is going so badly all its own, I wonder if you shouldn't just ride it out, you can always proactively hinder it later.

And, as for the county lock-up, I've learned to never fight in heels <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .

Hey is that fight in heels or with heels!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Say it again I am not getting it, proactively hinder? Oh I get it, set back and let the cards fall!!!! Duh!!!

I am just here sort of, not really pushing one way or the other, when I get to it I get it done, doesn't really sound like STBX is going to take it to court, doesn't have the money!! It's all pretty sad!!! Setting in your car to talk to your wife and kids!!! Always wondered why we'd call him and he would have to call us back, guess I know!!!

Have a Terrific Tuesday!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

daybreak,

Glad to see that things seem to be ok. I too am proud of you Lor. I been so busy working 9 hours and going to school that I haven't had any energy to complain about my life. I send my wishes to all, it may be a few tests before I can stop in again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />