Hi,
I a'm needing some advice here if anyone can help me. Actually i would like some in put on something i was told by my husband last night. As u all probably know my story, my husband is a big LIER, has been everysince we met each outher. Will not face up to nothing unless he is cornerd and sometimes not even then. My husband works for a company in Chicago plumbing is what he does for a living. anyways he is still in school he has classes 1 a week on wednesday after work they last 4 hours but sometimes they get out early. anyways he tells me last night that he is going to start staying in a motel up in Chacigo on school nights b/c it is to hard on him to drive home afterwards that if he drove home afterwards he would be to tried. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ok but what i don't understand is he has never brought this up to me he has allways drove home after school which got him home around 11:00 or the lastest 11:30 but now saying this. He leaves for work in the morning at 4:15 to get to his job site that starts at 6:00 then when he is done working goes straite to school. i ask him why would that be so hard on him to drive home 1 day a week when he allways did that before and it did not seem to bother him, and he said b/c this yr he hast to get up earlier than what he did last yr and he is just to tried to drive home after school. but the thing is last yr he had to leave the house at 5:00 am to get to his job that his start time was 7:00 so there is only a 1 hour's difference. to me that makes no since at all. Then when i told him i wanted the hotel number he first said well i will give u the guy i work with his cell number to reach me if u need to and i said no i want the motel number where u will be then he said he would once he got it. See where we used to live he also worked in Chacigo for a diffent company and told me 1 night that they had to work out of town for2 days but when i ask for the hotel number where he would be staying he said when i get a motel there i will call u but never gave me the number gave me some sort of a excuse but it has been so long now i can't reamber what it was. i guess i just want to know what everyone thinks about this does it sound fishy to u or is it just me? please can u help me? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Cathy,

Well it sure wouldn't make me feel comfortable. My H goes on out of town trips often and he gives me his itinerary each time. I have flight and hotel info at my fingertips.

Have you mastered that look of hurt yet? First, tell him you understand his need to stay due to the traveling time. But let him know his withholding info is making you not feel safe. If he asks why, say something like "So much is happening in this world, even killings or other vile stuff (hm...... ) in hotels, that I just don't feel safe." See how he answers it. Let him know that an effort to help you feel safe would be the hotel name, phone number and his room number.

If he still persists not to give you the info, let him know that you have a few friends whose H's did this while they were having full blown A's and it led to very unsafe consequences. Want details? Tell him you will have to get back to him on them........ then come ask us. We do have stories here.

OK?

HINT: I personally now boycott Motel6.

L.

<small>[ September 16, 2002, 12:45 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>