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A good frend of mine's GF just found out he has been calling other women. My WW has just told me that if we work things out one of the stipulations is that I can no longer be friends with him. Ok, I know she cannot tell me who my friends are, but by her saying this to me is that any sign at all that she is thinking we might be on the road to working things out? Or, am I just hearing what I want to hear from her.
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Don't know your story, however, sounds like a positive sign to me. Proceed slowly and cautiously.
I would think that discontinuing contact with this friend may be a good idea either way. You become what you associate with.
Good Luck and God Bless.
<small>[ September 16, 2002, 09:44 PM: Message edited by: Biscayne ]</small>
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Toro,
Good question and now you can ask and maybe even learn a bit about the WW thinking. So ask a few more questions like you want her opinion on why is this happening or what should others do? Can any help be extended? What support or advice can be gleaned?
JMHO,
L.
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Toro:
I don't know how close a friend this is, but you might have 2 choices that would work 2 your favor in your W's eyes:
1) ditch the friend.
2) educate the friend! If he's a very close friend, and could be persuaded not 2 do this 2 his GF, because it's HURTFUL, and he STOPS, then your W may truly be impressed.
My W had a friend that, several years ago, before the A started and my W went 2 her for advice, told my W "go for it. Get it out of your system." I don't want my W 2 ever associate with that gal again. I'm still hurt knowing that and all that's happened as a result of it.
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