...Things with my husband and I are doing much better and slowly working through the mess we made of this whole situation... We've been married for about 18 months now.. The last contact I had with my ex H was about 10 months ago. I've asked him to quit leaving voice mails on my phone at work.. He hasn't left any actual voice messages except for leaving a song that we used to listen to, and he leaves this song continuously..

This morning he actually leaves a voice mail asking if I could contact him becuz he needs to hear from me... I will not respond to any of his attempts to contact him.. I've come too far to go back now but I do have two questions..

1) I thought not contacting him would get the message across that I wanted to be left alone, obviously it hasn't worked.. He's such a sweet man but I hate to hurt him anymore by telling him "don't contact me!" especially after I married the man I had an affair with. I hate to call him becuz it would just be too hard on both of us.

2) Should I tell my husband this is happening? We've worked so hard on building trust these past few months and I'm scared of how this will affect that..

I have done nothing wrong.I hvae not contacted my ex but yet i feel so overwhelmed with guilt for hiding this from my husband . i want to tell him but i don't want him to feel like I'm not being faithful becuz I have been. Any suggestiions? Thanks

Three words...

Tell your husband.

A possible two more words...

Restraining order.