Hi,
U ask me why i think my H might be having a A on me. Well there are several things that make me think he has. 1. is i have found several things in his documents that look fishy to me, here are a few. mylov- kisses- hearts and then i put in files and folders pictures of women and a picture came up of a young women looked like a webcam picture that was sent. But it said girls-mall instead of just subject picture. Then about 1month ago my H told me he was wanting to go to some gocart racing down around where his family lives, which is about 2 hours from where we are living now. and i said well i would like to go we could make a nice weekend out of it, and he told me NO!!!!!! that he wanted to go by himself. And that he would be staying the night at his moms then when the race was over the next day he would come back home. I ask him well why are u going down the night before the race? why not the day of the race and he said b/c he wanted to leave early and get to his moms and help them on there farm to. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I then said well since we have moved up this way u have hardly even kept in touch with your family let alone want to go help them on there farm, and he used the excuse that well they called and ask me if i would. So he leaves that morning and did not return till the next night about 9 pm,coming in so happy and started right off by telling me all about the race when he knew i really diden't care much for gocart racing. i just wanted to go to see what he would tell me. now about 2 weeks later after the race was over i saw in my snoop software i have in my computer that said this.DID U HAVE A WONDERFULL WEEKEND!! that was all it said. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> now u know as well as i know u do not ask a nother man that. u would say something to the affect of hey how did the weekend go. And there is one outher thing that makes me feel like he is having a A on me, and that is about 3 months ago i walked in the back bedroom and my H was on the phone, when he turned around and saw me he said HEY I GOT TO GO BYE! and hurried up and hung the phone up. i then ask him who was u talking to and he said the uninployment office, well i know that to be a lie as they were closed on that day. and besides that u would not say hey i got to go bye and slam the phone down. See my H has allways lied to me and i can' trust a word he tells me, everythime i try and trust him he tells a nother lie to me but then just says to me i did not lie when i knew he did. ok now does what i told u sound like he was or is having a A on me? I also have a very strong gut feeling that he is, have had this feeling a very long time.ps.... The pictures i said i saw in the files and folders there were 4 of the same women.

Hi Cathy,
Well, after reading this, I would say you have good reason to be suspicious. My husband constantly lied to me too so I know how much it hurts. I am so sorry you are going through this and the only piece of advice I have for you is to trust your instincts! Have you confronted him on your suspicions? If not, is that an option for you? Even if you do confront him he probably won't be completely truthful and he might get angry, but at least he will know that you are suspicious. confronting my husband was the best thing I could have done. Even though he still lied to me, I could tell by the look in his face and the tone of his voice that he was lying. It didn't change things, but at least I felt better about being open and honest with him.
HOpe this helps Cathy. You have to do what is best for YOU in YOUR situation. Take care and let us know what happens.
BH