Hi,
Just read your reply and yes i did confront him, but ofcourse he said no i have no desire to be with no one else. I then started crying and that is when he got super quiet diden't talk to me through the rest of the dinner or on the way home and then when we got home he went straite to bed not saying a word to me.But the next day when he got home from work he acted like nothing ever happened hmmmm. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Why? Now see i had confronted him a long time ago about this and his reaction was totally different. He said a long time ago when i confronted him about me thinking he was having a A on me that NO!!!!! he was not and then got very angry and then when my g/f came over to visit he burst out to her when she just walked in the door and said Cathy thinks i a'm going out on her and then just laughed. So i a'm really confused now b/c the reaction of this time being so quiet when confronted and last time being so angry not sure how to take his reactions. What do u think?

Hi Cathy,
Since his reaction was so different from that of a few years ago, then that may be your answer. He was probably surprised by your suspicions and didn't know how to respond and didn't want to say or do anything to make you more suspicious. (which in reality, he did just the opposite...he made you MORE suspicious!) My husband had a way of pretending everything was "OK" too. This is the Fog settling in. IMHO, I think you are right to be suspicious. How are you doing in Plan A? If you are in Plan A and doing OK at it, try to talk to him without being confrontational about your feelings. I'm sorry I can't be of more help to you. I hope this helps a little. Sorry it took me a while to respond, I can't get online as often as I like.
Remember, Cathy, take care of YOU.
BH