Hi Maw,
Thanks for your reply. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> U ack me if he had a cell phone no he doesent, and he does not work late. He has school on Tuesday night as he is going for a plumber's licence. The problem i have is i don't have that kind of money to hire a pi, i wish i did. And we only have 1 car so i can't even check up on him. H e works in Chicago which is about 2 hours from where we live. And as far as councleing everytime i ask him to make a appt he says ok he will goes as far as finding a number in the phone book but stops there. I a'm tried of asking him, we went before and all he did was turn things around on me and made me look like a fool. I got so upset over how he was turning things around on me i coulden't even talk and try and tell most of my story. I had a snoop software in my computer awhile back but it kept freezing up my computer and i had to take it out. I was looking for a free snoop software that i could download in my computer that would not take up a lot of memory. My computer is used about 3 yrs old since we have had it now Windows 98. Would u happen to know of any free software i can download that is free, and will not take up alot of memory? I hate not knowing what my H is up to, that it self is driving me up a wall. If i knew 1 way or the outher i could deal with it alot eaiser. Cathy

Hey - I don't really know any computer stuff you can download - my husband never used the computer so I never had to worry about that.. My husband - actually we just got divorced last week - always did and still does twist everything around and put on my shoulders. Maybe you could have a friend follow him sometime to see if he is seeing someone else.. I know the desperation you are feeling not knowing - in some aspects I am still dealing with the same thing because I have not been told the whole truth yet and it drives me nuts trying to figure everything out... My husband had a girlfriend we will say since last April and around July or August he started acting really withdrawn and guilty I guess... I knew right away something was up and I kept teasing him about a girlfriend even though I didn't really believe it - but I think deep down I knew... So basically it has been hell since last year October when most stuff came out in the open...then it just came revelation after revelation .... If he is having an affair you will start to see the signs - maybe after he gets off the phone next time you catch him you can hit redial.. You either have to believe that he isn't or find out if he is or you are gonna go crazy - believe I know - do you have any kids?? And the WS never takes the blame for anything....

Hi Maw,
No i don't have any kids, and i do have friends and i have allready ask them if they could help me and they can't as they work so they have to get up early the next morning. Plus they told me that i just need to stop dwelling on this, but i can't till i know 1 way or the outher. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Well maybe you have to stop dwelling on it just so you don't drive yourself crazy - If he is cheating sooner or later he is gonna slip up and you are going to be able to catch him...I think you should maybe tell him - listen we really need to go to counseling so I can once and for all believe that you are not cheating on me and we can move on... Try to explain to him that you are going crazy being suspicious - if he has nothing to hide then he will help you feel better... I always followed my gut instincts and they were usually right --- Has he ever cheated on you in the past ??? Or is this something new that you just started feeling?? Did he start acting different??? Did you s*x life dwindle or change??? I mean there are lots of signs when someone is having an affair - why do you think so - just the telephone call - when he hung up quick???