Maw,
I do think my H was with a nother women , but as i said can't prove it. And yes i have tried to talk to him many times on how i feel about things, and he just don't seem to care. I mean he either tells me that is not so when i bring something up or he gets mad at me and we go into a fight. See he was supposed to go to a nother gocart race a couple of weeks ago but coulden't cause he had to take me down to my mom's house over the weekend. But plans changed and i diden't go, so i ask him well being that my plans changed and i a'm not going to my moms are u still going down to the gocart race over the weekend, and he first said no then said well i might. Then the day of the gocart race he decided not to go. hummm. It was allmost like he had called this outher women to see if she was going to go and first she might of said yes then changed her mind. That is why he changed his mind. Now that is just what i was thinking that happened. B/c he was really wanting to go to this gocart race before he fount out that i had to go to my moms over that weekend. Then all of a sudden changed his mind. That sounded fishy to me. And a nother thing here lately he has been really nice to me, even after i told him i thought he was having a A on me, go figure. Cathy

OK well you need to get some solid concrete proof - you need to start snooping - though like I said before you must be prepared for what you find out - you might not like it - If he is having an affair you will find out for sure sooner or later - Is he spending more money??? Hiding things??? other than that one phone call??? - I knew totally that something was up with my husband and I just kept ribbing him about it - like I was joking but I don't think I really was and then one day he said ok you want to know well here it is... Quite shocking I will say - How much free time does he have??? You can write back on this post - I will come back later and check in on you????

Maw,
Yes he has spent money that i could not count for. When i confront him about the money , he says not sure what happened to it. RIGHT!!!! U see he has allways done the bills as it don't do me a bit of good to take over the bills as when i try and take over the bills he allways gets into the money and says he needs some for this or that. And yes he allways is very scrective about everything, allways has been.I have allways been in the dark about things as long as we have been married. And 1 point and time on our savings account we got a notice saying he owed the bank due to to many withdwrals. But as i said back then i diden't even look at the statement i guess cause at the time i really did not want to know if he was having a A on me. Now on the snooping not sure just how to snoop real good on my computer as i a'm new at this. I know some but very little. Oh i wanted to mention to u that last night when H came home from school he had brought me a card that said this..... sometimes i feel like it is just me and u againest the world and then on the inside it said and the world's cheating. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Not sure how to take this card. I ask him last night what he meant by the card and he told me oh i don't reamber just what it means, then said he was just really tried. hmmmmm. H eyes loked really weird when he came home from school, u see he used to have a drug problem, but says he no longer does now.

Ok in the dark - I apologize - I checked last night but I must have missed it and I am at work and I have been so busy that I haven't even had a chance to check - but I promise to keep up now - I will be home all night - OK anyways - Wow I really see where your name comes from - you really need to get a grip on things and find out what is going on... Are you working ??? It sounds to me like he is very controlling and you are just there so to speak...I am not all that great at computer snooping but I know if you post the question people will help you out around here - not a problem most people are very good with computers... can you get access to credit card statements or bank statements for the last couple of months or so - to try and see what is going on ??? The card sounds to me like he was either being sarcastic or that he was trying to tell you something and then chickened out... do you think he is doing drugs?? Is there anyway you can find out ??? You have got to make him talk to you - somehow - someway to try and get some answers - maybe bluff him and tell him that you have proof and see what he says - ???