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Still a cakeman............what to do?
#1030491 09/26/02 11:47 PM
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As I sat here tonight and thought a little bit, actually trying to figure out what STBX is doing now!!!!

A thought came to mind..........He is still a cakeman the frosting has just changed flavors!!!!

After D day he was living with me but conversing with her, and now over 18 months later he is living by her and conversing with me!!!! UGH!!!

Has he come to the conclusion that it is cheaper to stay married, but have her close by. If he gets divorced she willl expect him to marry her ASAP and the alimony money kicks in!!!!

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!This one realy bites!!!!!!!!!!!! What am I to do? I know the answer to that believe me, Wait for the Lord to take care of it, I gave the problem to him!!!! Just kind of ironic how the frosting changed!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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#1030492 09/27/02 12:23 AM
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So for the love of $$$$ he lives a double life?!?!?

You will eventually need to decide whether you want to be a part of this triangle. You can still protect your interests and get out of that mess.

Sounds like the OW will start to hassel him soon. Want me to push it??? Where is that LB Fairie! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.
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#1030493 09/27/02 08:52 AM
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I definitly have to give you a big <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> , you are doing so much better for yourself than I have seen before. Do I sense a little happiness inside? "The Lord helps those who help themselves", I think you know what you want, what is best. "Without consequences, what does one learn"
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#1030494 09/27/02 09:09 AM
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I am very sorry Daybreak, he is definitely confused. Keep up the good work on your part.. perhaps he will not stay with her after all..

I am a little confused, wasn't he on vacation at your home with her? I hate this.

hugs, HOney
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#1030495 09/27/02 02:04 PM
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Daybreak,
I know the delay in the D is not of your doing, but when it does fall back in your lap, if you don't want the D, take as long as you want with that next step. Afterall, his lack of organization does not create an emergency for you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .

With the amount of miles between you, I don't see how you can go wrong at this point by responding to his calls with Plan A behavior.
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#1030496 09/27/02 05:11 PM
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RAINE, Honey, Lor,

Thank you all for the kind words and thoughts!!!

Hon, No it was my girls that went to visit dad with her being there and he had to move her out, my girls never seen her but did take her lunch a few days.

Lor, mentally I was ready to sign this week, am not sure that I will still be in that frame of mind next week though. MMMMMMMMMMMMM shucky darn!!

I did send him an e mail the other day that said nothing but hope you have a nice day!!! He replied accordingly!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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