Can anyone please give me a link to signs of a A? I really need to know some signs. ty Cathy

Cathy,

Which link are you referring to? \

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Orchid,
It really don't matter, just some signs i can go by.

Cathy,
do a refresh course and read the concepts section above. You have been through this for a while. I am at a loss of what you are trying to achieve.

There was a thread by Redhat a while back about enabling an A.

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Orchid,
It is just that here lately i have reason to belive my H has been having a A on me, and it is really driving me NUTS!!! He won't admit to nothing. The outher night when we were out to dinner i thought to myself ok, i a'm going to talk to him calming about some things that have been bothering me. So i started off with i know u have cheated on me, i only started off that way thinking he would admit to it, but in fact he stated to me that he had no desire to cheat on me. As when i started crying he got very quiet and did not speak to me the rest of the dinner as well as all the way home. Then when he got home all he did was go strait to bed. The next day when he came in from work he acted as if nothing never happened, kissed me got me a card so on. Now the card he got me i don't really understand it, as this is what it said..... i feel like u and me are againest the word,and the world is cheating. then signed it love Mike with kisses. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> There is just alot of things he has done lately that is just to weird. When i ask him what the card meant he said oh u know the saying u and me against the world i said yes but i don't understand in the middle of the card what it meant. Then he said hey i a'm just really tried can't think now or explain the card to u. got to go to bed. So what i was wanting is just some tale signs of how to tell if your spouse is cheating on u. Ps..... oh also when he came home from work that next day after we had that dinner the night before his eyes looked very strange to me, not red just weird. now he used to have a cocaine habbit but said when we were married he no longer has it.

Cathy,

Your sig line says you have fear of the unknown. While that may be common undue paranoia is not.

His actions and reactions don't sound bad. If you keep acting the way you do he may go have an A. REad the book his needs/her needs. Learn to appreciate his good actions and don't make him feel bad for being nice to you. Just don't be gullible nor paranoid.

ok?

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Orchid,
O.K. will do ty. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Oh where it says i have the fear of the unknown that was the very first time i ever posted here, since then things have been happening that made me think he was having a A on me.

Orchid,
Is that his needs her needs on this site? is it free?

ITD; is this what you're looking for?

Remember these are SIGNS. NOT absolute.

50 Indicators of Infidelity.
1. A sudden upturn in their demeanor or outlook on life.
2. Constantly late.
3. More possessive toward wallet, pocket calendar or briefcase.
4. Comes home more often with alcohol on breath.
5. Starts talking about getting together with old friends they haven't seen in years.
6. Starts shopping for new clothes.
7. Starts taking a renewed interest in their appearance.
8. Starts keeping an overnight bag in their car or office, ostensibly for a workout or a game of tennis.
9. Orders dishes or new household items never ordered before.
10. Does not look at other women/men as much as they used to.
11. Starts working late and on holidays and weekends.
12. Express opinions on subjects that they never had an interest in.
13. Takes a new interest in anticipated schedule.
14. Encourages you to visit parents or friends alone.
15. They give you gifts that show a new level of taste or insight about the opposite sex.
16. Car is kept free of paraphernalia belonging to you or the kids.
17. Starts attending extended seminars or conventions.
18. Start using new words and phrases.
19. At odd hours they start remembering things they forgot to do at the office.
20. They suggest that you open up separate checking accounts.
21. Often forget to wear wedding ring.
22. Takes the dog for much longer walks.
23. Makes more phone calls late at night.
24. A marked change of attitude towards secretary, colleagues or friends.
25. Suddenly takes up new hobbies or friends that take them out of the house in the evenings and weekends.
26. They talk about a movie they've seen but you have not.
27. They insist on answering the phone.
28. They call out a different name in sleep.
29. Smell of a different soap from the brand at home and/or you smell freshly showered at 1.00am.
30. They care about how breath smells. New mints, gum, etc. found around house.
31. Uses pre-paid calling card/pager/cell phone for the first time ever.
32. Loses a lot of weight and seems proud of new body.
33. Saddest list item is: change in die-hard pro-life feelings on abortion.
34. Gut feeling. The biggest indicator of an affair is just feeling that it is so.
35. Juvenile behavior and music interests!!!
36. Uses more kid slang than the kids!!!!!
37. Knows all the new pop singers and has CD's.
38. When they lose stuff they accuses you of gettting into their "stuff"....
39. Uses the ATM way too much!
40. All of a sudden, their attitude about people who cheat changes, e.g., "we shouldn't judge because we don't know their whole story."
41."It wasn't a dinner date - it was just a way of saying thank you for carpooling"
42."I never lied about being married - she never asked me, so I just didn't bring it up"
43. Grocery shopping and other excuses to get out "alone."
44.The one difference is that my Wife wants our kids to like the other person because in the back of her head she thinks she will be with him. Very sickening. !!!!!!!!!!!
45. Carries toothpaste, toothbrush, mouthwash at all times.
46. When other person is co-worker, can't wait to get to work each day .
47. Becomes great friends with people going through divorce.
48. Defends other who are/have/will cheat(ed/ing).
49. Distances themselves from those with strong (any) moral values.
50. Gets "coded" pager messages at all times of the day and night