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WH told friends he was coming home before he told me
#1030688 09/29/02 12:36 AM
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I just spoke with a good friend of mine from college, they had moved to a different state and I had misplaced their phone number.

They are actually the couple of set WH & I up at their wedding, she is a friend of mine from college, here husband and WH have been friends since childhood.

She told me they had spoken with WH when they had come home to visit for a couple of days in July . WH told them that as soon as he got a job that he was going to move back home. This was a couple of weeks before he got his new job, and that is when he started changing.

Why is it that he told people, had a plan, and that backs out of it?
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You know the answer...the dreaded fog! Right now he doesn't know if he's coming or going, literally!! You are doing everything you need to do...hang in there!
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mgm:

yes..I know, that dreaded fog!!!

by the way, WH told me in an email he might come by this weekend. I doubt if he does!
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...if he comes over, so be it! If he doesn't, oh well. You can't control his behaviour, only your own.

As an aside, the fact the hasn't filed for D and the fact his behaviour is erratic tells me he doesn't know what he wants right now. IMHO, he's hoping that you'll make the decision for him and he won't have to take responsibility. If his needs have always been looked after, he'll find it very difficult to act on his own. He'll want someone else to fix this for him. Don't be tempted to help him fix this. One way or another, he needs to do this on his own.

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