Well,
WH is coming for a weekend visit.I am glad and this time I am not a nervous wreak as previous visits. I think I am getting to the point where I can accept any outcome. My desire for reconciliation hasn't changed but I have really let go of my H. I have seen some cracks in the wall he has built up, but no break in his resolve for D or to move on. I am hoping this weekend will be a baby step, but not expecting much, in fact it seems if he just wants to avoid me. I will have a chance to show "the new me" at son's football game. I haven't seen WH for almost 5 months. I hope he will see and feel the changes. I DO!! I guess that is all that matters. Any last minute advice or suggestions would be appreciated. I haven't posted much lately, my life finally seems to be turning a corner back to normalacy. HOORAY. To all who worry, IT DOES GET BETTER!! Even without WS coming back, If you let it get better and want it.

Thanks,
Sharon

Ute,
My advice is to be the best you can be. Be polite, cordial, amicable, stay away from the lovebusters. Keep your head up, smile, be confidant. Avoid doing anything you know you'll regret.

I'll say a prayer for you.

Good advice from Lor. I know it's diffficult, but your attitude is right. You can only show him your positive changes and don't let him get you down no matter what he says or does. If you've made it five months and feel as positive as it sounds you do, then you are doing a good plan A for you.

You don't need luck. You sound strong and confidant. You will be fine.

Hi Ute, good luck this weekend, sounds like you will do just fine, good advice from the others, God Bless...A/C0810

Hi Ute, good luck this weekend, sounds like you will do just fine, good advice from the others, God Bless...A/C0810

good luck this weekend, remember all your changes are to be shown, don't tell him how you have changed, he will see it in your actions.

My gut feeling of him avoiding you, is that he's trying to wipe out his past, but deep inside knows he can't.

Have a great time, do a little flirting like you were dating!! Stay away from iniating any R talk.

You sound like you are ready!!

Thanks everyone,
I don't think I would have been ready if I hadn't had all your help. I feel ready. Like I said I'm not expecting ANYTHING. But, I do want to show him what he is giving up. He is here in town now, just called S. Don't think I will see him tonight. I feel so GREAT today. I really don't even care if I see him. I think that is why I feel great. Don't get me wrong, I still love him, but I want someone who loves ME. I will not be SECOND BEST. It is like I read in another post that ORCHID said that he will have to EARN me back.

A/C I was glad to hear from you. How did your weekend go? I have been thinking of you. How are you.

Lor, Unsure, G_C,
Thanks for your encouragement. I need it. I am not going to "TELL" him anything. Let him "GUESS" why I seem different <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I will give you an update, when the weekend is over.

Thanks everyone and love to you all. HERE I GO!!!

Sharon

So far so good,
He actually came over last night after dinner with the kids. I thought he would just drop S off. We all had a nice talk. He laughed, smiled. But I am still not expecting anything. Did my best to look ALLURING <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Good thing I hadn't changed into my flannel pj's. He did seem a little upset when I mentioned that his Best Friend had gotten a new job. He was probably wondering why I knew. I did not persue it just dropped it. Anyway, I will see him again today, I hope to get an invite to dinner. But probably not. That is okay.
Sharon

sounds like you are doing well, keep us posted!!!

Also, since it seems you know more about his best friend than he does, this will affect him. with you being the awesome person you are right now, and him not having contact with best friend, he will miss his home life, especially after spending time with the kids.

keep it up!!