I need some help. For almost 3 years I've been struggling with the problems of the past.
We have been doing ok (I guess). Now I have the chance to move to Fla for possibly a new start and a better life for me and my family. I have been having physical problems for a few years now and it's getting harder to do what I do for a living. Florida has all the things I need.
Warmer weather So the pain is alot less and I won't be doing what I used to do. The job comes with all the perks. The problem is my wife does not know if she can move that far from her parents. I have no options. I can't move there myself, I won't leave my kids. If I stay here I have to continue to deal with the cold and constant pain. The job is there for me and I want to take it but how do I convince my wife that this could be a positive move for all of us. she say's that she doesen't want us to be apart but can't give me a straight answer. We've talked about it so many times but get no where. So what am I suposed to do, Stay here and live in pain and unhappy. I think that I'm starting to get resentful. Please help.

<small>[ February 06, 2005, 04:00 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]</small>

Hi, D..............Its hard for some people to up root to a new place sometimes not knowing what the future holds. Your family has to be sold on its the right thing to do...such as what are the benefits for them? How is it going to be better for them? What's the good verses the bad?....Women need a written out plan. You can't hold it in your head they have to see it, its all about security for them. Men can go sleep in a tent and be fine, but women have to know whats happening, they are homemakers. If she is concerned about being away from her mother, give her a promised travel plan so she can see how often she can visit her mother or family or how often you will fly her mother to see you guys....she needs to see a plan with money budgeted for that...

Here's also word of "caution", if you are having any marital problems, get them fixed now!!, Florida is the last place on earth you want to be if you are trying save your marriage, meaning, FL is a no-fault state, if a spouse wants a divorce, no questions asked, even while they are seperated florida law says they can have a OM/OW, you can do nothing and they still can take you to the cleaners for CS and Alimony before any divorce....

Florida is a wonderful place but the court systems feed on people's legal issues, they're like wild piranha's, they go on a feeding frenzy and they love it.

Hi

If you are Christians, show your wife, in the bible where it say man should leave his mother and father and cling to his wife. That also applies to women and your wife
I beleive it's in Matthews.

If they are sick can you afford to take them with you?