I recently found out that my fiance was viewing porn online, when I asked him about it, he lied. This has been about a week ago, and last night is when he finally confessed. I feel hurt by it, but mostly because he lied, not the actual act of looking at the garbage! Besides that, he goes out every Saturday morning and has breakfast, or so he says. There was one morning that I woke up early so that I could go with him and he made up all kinds of excuses why I shouldn't go. For example; " You aren't dressed, the baby isn't even awake yet, it will take you too long to get everything ready. I'll just bring you back something." He didn't bring anything back and it took him almost two hours before he returned home. I am usually asleep when he goes and he gets back before I wake up ( I'm not a morning person <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ). My mother usually keeps my son on Fri. nights and most of the day on Sat. so that my fiance and I can have some time to ourselves. This is usually when he goes. He Very rarely goes on Sundays because we have our son. I have asked him repeatedly where he goes and why he's gone for so long. But all he ever says is that he goes to eat and gets mad because he thinks I don't trust him and I'm just neagging at him! What am I to think of all this? There was a rumor that he was cheating when I was three months pregnant. I left him because of it. Though the source wasn't reliable, I have a problem with trust anyway, so that just made it worse. There is still no proof that he was unfaithful, though it is still in the back of my mind.
Me: 20
Him: 33
Son: 7 months
We've been together 2 years in November.
We've planned to be married three times, and he has backed out all three times. I have asked him why and he said that it was bad timing. I didn't know there was a "good" time to get married. What do you suppose he ment by that? Does anyone know what to look for in terms of cheating? I have had brief relationships before, where that man has cheated, but didn't find out until after the relationship ended. This however, is very different! This man is the father to my son and I love them more than anything! I am determined to make this one work, but I need help with this issue. Besides him lying about the internet and past drug history, and this little Sat. morning this, our relationship is GREAT! No, it's beyond great! I know he loves me, he has proven that to the biggest sceptic, me! He works his a** off for us and has sacrificed a whole lot for me and our son! So what do you think I should think about this? Any advice would be good!
Thanks, Orion