About a year and a half ago my M was in shambles due to A's that both my H and I were in. We decided to reconcile and make our M work and have been in recovery for almost a year now.

What we are facing now is behavior problems from both of our children. More specifically our 7 year old son. He has been acting out in school, he won't listen to us. He has no care for consequences. I was about to pull my hair out.

Finally after all this time I took a fourth trip to the library and found the most wonderful book
"How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too!" by Sal Severe, Ph.D.

The back cover has this test to see if you need the book:

1. Are you tired of repeating everything four times to get your child to listen?

2. Do you get an argument everytime you ask your children to do something?

3. Do you give into your children to stop the whining?

4. Do you say "stop that" more than six times a day?

5. Does your babysitter give you a discount for coming home early?

6. Do your children spend hours in front of the TV and only minutes doing homework?

7. Do you ever feel guilty or embarrassed because your children won't behave?

8. Do you and your spouse argue about discipline?

9. When you punnish your children, do you feel punished yourself?

10. Are you looking forward to sending your children away to college?

I can't tell you how much difference this book has made. I haven't even had to raise my voice in over a week!(and that in definitely an accomplishment in our household )

I just wanted to pass this information on to any of you parents who might be going through the same things. It has helped us so much, I hope it can help someone else out there too.

DU

HI definetly unsure...just read your post, sounds like a good book, god knows i need it. I have a daughter thats sounds like your son.

Anyway, have you been to your doctors to discuss your childs behaviour. My daughter is almost 13, she was diagnosed with ADHD (Attention Deficet, Hyperactivity Disorder) when she was in kindergarden. It is also called ADD. The points you made in your post from the book, trust me i go through more than half of those each day and its not fun for sure. Anyway, something to check into if you already havent. good luck..A/C0810

That book sounds great!! However... how does it fit into a household with 3 really young children? I have a 3 1/2 yr old and 20 month old twins. And I was able to answer 'yes' to far too many questions on the list you shared.

In your opinion, would the concepts of this book work with me?

Karen

A/C0810,

Ever since my son was 2 and a half we have been taking him to see councelors, his pediatrician, school councelor, county funded testing programs, and child therapist. He went through phases of biting, to phases of stealing and lying. At 5 years old (kindergarten)he was diagnosed with borderline ADD. Which I have come to the conclusion really meant they didn't have a clue what was going on with him. Never once have I had the subject approached in the way this book does it. I just can't stop saying wonderful things about it. I wish I found it when I was pregnant.

Topie25,
My son is 7 and my daughter just turned 4. I have more problems with my son than my daughter, but she has her days too. My feeling is with this book the concepts can work for any age. GET THIS BOOK ASAP. It is definitely saving my sanity. It has examples throughout the entire book that work for children from birth through their teen years. If your children are anything like my daughter, "NO" was the biggest part of her vocabulary. Now my children are becoming so much more cooperative(I am amazed I can say that now).

DU

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Thanks. I'll be looking for the book at the library (online) in a few minutes, and may try and get my own copy by next weekend.

Karen