WW was 29, I was 30 on d-day #1. Now we're 30 and 31 respectively.

She seemed to demonstrate some signs of an early MLC. My birthday is the 27th, and I suspect it'll be the first in 15 years that it goes unacknowledged, due to my by-the-book Plan B.

My H was 37 when he had the first affair I found out about. I think now, he probably was sleeping around his whole AF career. He had three other affairs in the last 6 years. His last one (at age 49) is with a 28 year old flight attendant bimbo--who doesn't realize who she is tangling with. He is a loser at this point. Oh well....

My WH' record that I know of -

@ 33 - OW was much younger & newly divorced with infant the age of our 2nd child. I hired her for our business & she became his secretary <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

@ 37 - became Mr Party

@ 46 - OW1 was HS friend, OW2 is 9-10 years younger & broke up with her BF of 9 years to be with WH <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

d.

I am 37.
W is 30.
OM is 31. Wife said I wasn't going to like that. Don't know what she meant.

Can a woman have a MLC at that age?

When it started- H 39, BW 43, OW 34

My FWW and I were both 32 when her EA/PA started. We are in recovery. She had other EA's, though (3 of them) that I learned about after D-day. Those were spread throughout her 20's. Some circumstances that might have added to the stress of our marriage this time around were a big job change for me and post-partem depression for her.

My WW was 36 when her EA began on the internet. Found out later that PA began on her 37th birthday, five days after I turned 40.
Still separated but fog may be lifting. Sigh.............

I guess we got an earlier start than most <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> .

When H's A#1 started I was 23, H was 27. My A and H's A#2 were when we were 27 and 31-2.

We're only 36 and 40 now, and we're doing our best to make up for all that wasted time. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Lori

we had been married for 3 years i am 28 w is 24 she had A with OM 38

mental but hey
Thats the way it goes

charly

My A started when I was 24, H was 27, OM was 22. H's affair with OW at the same time, OW 24. I am 26 and H is 29 now, and the OW and OM, well they don't really matter now do they.

Thanks to everyone for answering this inquiring mind.

Yes, some are much younger than I would have guessed. But don't you think it's a problem within the WS (and maybe the M--I'm speaking out of my own experience)that causes the wandering and not necessarily age?

I know I was lonely. For some ridiculous reason, I thought I could see a bit of my Dad in OM. (My H is much more like my father--not trying to get kinky here! H and I have always maintained we married--me someone like my dad--him someone like his Mom--in many aspects but not all, of course)

I also let my mind trick me into thinking OM could comfort me better. But I didn't give H a chance because I wasn't honest. I was dying to tell the truth and let things get way out of hand (pardon the pun)

J.R., how is Plan B going?

The more I read your responses, the more I wish I had a magic wand to heal your hurting hurts. I wish more were able to have their life put back together. Just be encouraged that you are on the journey toward a better self-awareness and the capacity to love again.

I did not read the whole thing but mine seem to be due to the 7 year itch. WS first affair at 7 years and second at 21. I must have been okay at 14. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

WH-48, me-42 It seems that my hubby has been going thru some sort of "crisis" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> changing his hair and beard style. Wanting me to dye his hair darker...yeah right!

WH 39, me 38, OG 20
Definitely a MLC, had laser surgery on eyes, got a tattoo, bought new clothes, dyed hair. And she found herself a "sugar daddy".
Coming to terms now with his age although he still dyes his hair.

WH - 33, BS (me) - 39, OW 26.

Married about 3 years, known each other 4.

FWS (me) 29, BS (my hubby) just turned 30 (and he was very stressed out about that b-day, we were 6.5 years into our marriage (7 year itch?), 12 years into our relationship - we never dated anyone else seriously in our lives before falling in love and staying together. OM was 28, married for not quite 1 year.

Age doesn't really seem to affect the affairs, although a few folks have been 29 turning 30, or 39 turning 40, etc, or in a MLC of some sort.

Interesting thread...

Jen

oops, didn't mean to double post!

<small>[ October 15, 2002, 01:26 AM: Message edited by: Jen Brown ]</small>

My FWS just turned 39 when I believe the A started. I had just turned 31.
Late 30's, early 40's look like bit of a danger zone.