My separated wife 5 weeks) dropped off my daughter to my mom. We haven't seen or spoken since separation-her choice. She told my mom I was lying again (involving letter from my attorney to her attorney) stating that I said she has also violated restraining order (which she has) But of course my attorney said it a little more severely than that-he made it sound like it's been a lot and it hasn't. Of course, she thinks I'm lying again! How can a guy win. All these lies I'm supposedly saying are coming from distortion through 3rd parties. NOT ME. I wish she and I could talk. She is so hostile to me. Hard to imagine I still love her and want to be married when she's like this. Will it ever change before divorce is final. Why does she want to be enemies? Is it a "I'm in CONTROL thing?" I love her and want to work on our marriage, but she is making me rethink things. She keeps saying things like "my lawyer this and my lawyer that" she could care less about me or our marriage. She is being so selfish.

Anyone with any advise?

Al,

Her anger needs time to vent and peter out.

Your repuation is tarnished and it will take time for you to have trust restored. Knowing this may help lessen the impact but never fully remove the pain. You have to keep plotting along and udoing each damaging piece of evidence thrown in your face.

That happens even from the BS side. Same procedure.

Sorry it has to be this tuff.

take care,
L.