My advice, BH? Don't have any expectations from your WW. Don't try to read anything into what she's doing (or not doing), saying (or not saying). Forget about her - you'll just drive yourself crazy. Instead, focus on yourself. Do what you think is best for
you .
I'm sure you're getting out and finding a life of your own, right? If not, do it. I don't mean other women - I mean friends, social life, new interests, hobbies. Get a life.
Now, if you still want your WW and are willing to wait, then let her know it. Tell her (or show her) you love her and will wait for her. Don't make the D easy - let her do it all. Drag it out. But keep Plan A'ing the whole time - don't make it an ugly contest. You're holding on because you believe in your M vows and you believe in her (the real her, not the alien).
I think I'm in exactly the same position with my WH as you're in now with your WW. And I'm agonizing over what to do, how to handle it, where do I go from here. I feel like I'm stuck hoping and he's already moved on. But I finally decided that I still love my WH, I don't want a D, and I have nothing to lose by just sitting back and letting him do what he wants to do. In the meantime, I'm getting a life. I keep contact with him by e-mail - politics, work subjects, stuff about our farm and our pets - things that are harmless, non-threatening, don't get into the deeper relationship issues. Just enough so he knows I'm still here.
Hope this helps. Let us know what happens. Hey, maybe if things turn around for you, I can have hope for myself! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
<small>[ October 14, 2002, 07:40 AM: Message edited by: SH94 ]</small>
