Original thread Plan A/Plan B. Thanks for the replies and suggestions. I saw a counselor yesterday and of course, he said I am definitely suffering from depression and needing anti-depressants. He also said (and he is a Christian counselor) that it may take just walking out with my belongings to snap H into reality since H has continued to hold that nothing is happening. I gave H some printouts from Dennis Rainey's broadcast on EA and PA which I had him read in front of me and we discussed. H's only reply is that he could see how EAs and PAs can happen but it's not him.
I made him take me to the hotel and asked the manager for the guest card and signature --- of course he did not know where we were going at the time and when we arrived he got outraged and refused to go in. I told him we were not leaving until he had done so. The manager asked for his ID and then came back with copies. OW's name and address is shown with 1 adult and my H's signature for the charge card for 2 different nights (including our anniversary). Of course the 1 adult means nothing as people register as 1 all the time. First his claim was that she needed somewhere to stay because of partying on weekend; none of the dates are weekends, and now the story is she was homeless. Supposedly she and her daughter got into an argument and the daughter put her out. Well, it's such a pattern that it occurs every 2 weeks on Wednesdays. Hmm! As I told H, I don't believe a word that comes out of his mouth. If she's having a problem with daughter, get her own place and surely this is not the first time; so what did she do before she met you?!
Yesterday H and I were talking on phone when he called me by OW's name. Insists he has no more contact with OW and that it's been weeks since he's gotten any calls from her or seen her. NOT SO! He's had continuous calls (he has called OW and OW has called him) including LAST night while he was sitting in our living room. Of course he lied and said it was his supervisor, and of course after he went to sleep I checked his cell log and found it was OW's number. And he doesn't even pretend to come to bed; simply sleeps downstairs in living room every night.
So, I know some say I should stay. My question WHY? I sick of the lies and deceit. I already have itching and discharge from last intercourse session over a month ago (initiated by me). Have been tested but tests did not show anything. I can't sleep and I'm sitting around with chest pains over this. SO please tell me why I should continue to be humiliated, cheated on, lied to, neglected, and emotionally abused? I'm fed up. Although H insists there's nothing and he's entitled to befriend whomever he chooses, I know he's involved and evidently more than he even realizes.
How do I put him out? Lease is in my name only as are utilities, etc. H says he has paid half rent and is therefore entitled to stay. Any suggestions??
