Hi everyone....things seems to be going pretty good here, he even kissed me last friday when he was leaving out the door. Anyway on the weekend, i did confront him with the chatting with the OW on the computer when i walked in on him. I said "it hurts me when you are chatting with her, its very painful for me". He shrugged his shoulders at me, i think he was as shocked as i was that i had said it. It was the hardest thing i had to do, cause we both do not talk about the OW at all.
So basically i dont know what the next step is, should i just sit back and keep plan aing? As i said things are really good, we are talking about our future , our problems, the kids, etc. but he cant break the ties with her i guesss. What do i do if he says he wants to keep contact with her as a friend. I know as hard as this is to beleive , i would trust him, but i dont think i would like it too much. She was supposed to be coming here in oct. he hasnt mentioned any more about it , maybe she is not coming at all, or maybee he told her not to come, or maybe she is still coming, i dont know. As i said the subject of the OW is a very touchy one and we dont discuss it. I know i have a tendency to grab at straws, but last nite he turned off his cell phone and he never does that.
Anyway, other news is that my dad passed away last nite (tuesday), he was 90 and he lived a good and long life. He was peaceful and in no discomfort, so i am ok. He is with god now and my mom, it was for the best.
I was reading some posts this morning, and realized i think i have to be more patient, even when things look good, i think i am expecting evertying to be good again fast. I think he is gonna swoop me in his arms, tell me he loves me, and say how sorry he is for all this, etc. etc. But from what i read , its still baby steps all the way. Anyway, i am rambling, thanks for advice in advance....A/C0810
