GC,

Action & words sound good. This is from the 'skeptical bug'. LOL!!

We are very happy for you. Let him know that 2!!!! Oooh I just did a 2long stunt! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Steve can be your point man. Just point your H to Steve and he will do the rest. Ooooh how I wish it were that easy but you are definitely headed in the right direction.

Still my cautious side says to be prepared for a few backslides. Nothing in comparison to what you have already been through so you will be able to handle it.

Let him meet your needs. He does have some ground & time to make up for. Let him know he doesn't have to do it all at once. He can be making up to you for the rest of your life. LOL!! ......and you will enjoy returning the kind/loving gesture. Awhh.....there is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.

Hugz,
L.
PS: If /when you can, let him know your MB buddies are jumping up and down all over the world!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> PS: If /when you can, let him know your MB buddies are jumping up and down all over the world! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yupp, I'm jumping!!!!!!!! Hey, guys, when should I stop???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

hugs
bb

Hi GC, Just wanted to add how happy I am for you. This is just so good, and I wish you both all the best. Its been a long journey, but you hung in there.

I don't recall the black thong story, but it certainly sounds interesting...

Best wishes my friend.

GC,

I am happy for you. I hope that this is the beginning of a new life for you and your H.

Indy

GC,
I have been following your thread for 7 mths..and I am SO happy for you. You have been so patient. I haven't been posting much as I am a bit discouraged and your post was truly an upper! Please keep us updated and enjoy! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Can't Sleep

This isn't an update from G_C.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> (I wish I was a little mouse right now and could see what she was up to. hehe)

I guess G_C you are real busy. Have a nice weekend and enjoy yourself.

Please just don't forget your "Nut Family". We are waiting desperately to hear from you.
I hope I am not making a mistake to talk for others but I think we are "all" waiting to hear from you.

hugs
bb

GC,
I haven't been here long so not totally familiar with your story but have read some of your recent posts and sounds like this has been a long time coming. I am THRILLED for you! I wish you two the very best in your recovery. It won't be easy (H and I are almost a year into recovery and I still have issues). Don't forget to rely on your friends here for help and advice and just to vent your feelings. Again, congrats and best of luck to you both!

Almost

first, I wanted to say thanks to everone for checking in with me!!! "WE" have been pretty busy!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Things are going EXTREMELY WELL!!!! (Yes, I know that there will be roadblocks, since this is to be expected, I hope I am well prepared!!)

Friday evening he was here when I got home from work. We relaxed at home, watched a couple of movies, just relaxed and it was SOOOO comfortable.

Got up Saturday morning, had breakfast, then lunch, and went shopping all day long, didn't really buy much, bought a few Christmas gifts and such. We had saw something in a store and he called his aunt about it (something she was looking for) and I overheard him talking, I think she was asking him how things were. He was saying things were going well, better than he ever thought, and he was happy.

I am still Plan Aing him and he is Plan Aing me right back!!! (Even though he doesnt know it!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ) I expected things to be a little awkward, but they aren't, it is very comfortable.

He told me he was home for good, that he had told himself that he wanted to be sure with absolutely no doubt in his mind. Friday night, he made the comment, "I am on my couch, in my house, with my dogs, with my wife, thank God!!".

He has called and spoken to my Dad, I did not hear the conversation, but asked how it went. He said he apologized to my Dad about putting me through this, and he told my Dad not to worry that he will take good care of me!!

He made my favorite breakfast for me this morning!! Right now he is golfing, he wanted to get out of it so we could do some stuff together today but they couldn't find a 4th at the last minute, so when he gets home, dinner will be made, I have missed cooking for him. Since we don't have kids, its tough cooking for one, especially since I get tired of leftovers!

I haven't initiated any relationship talk. Last night something came up, and he promised no contact with OW, he also said he had no desire to talk to her, that he has everything he wants. He also said that he could not have done this a couple of months ago (meaning completely moving back). We talked a little about this without me doing any "educating", from the conversation, I think he knew that he had withdrawal at first and it took a few weeks to get over it. In a way, I am glad, I am sure I will have to deal with it but not to the excess of what I would have dealt with in the very beginning, right after he left.

Right now, I am going to make him feel safe, where he won't want to stray. There's a marriage seminar at church next month, I am going to sign us up for a spot and then ask him to go in a week or so, see how it goes. It is led by a Christian marriage counselor that I am interested in going to.

There's alot of work to be done, I have also said I needed complete honesty with everything, etc.

Wish us luck!!

HI there G_C,

yippee, you are doing so great, I'm so happy for you.

I haven't got much that I can tell you, you know it all. It's now just a matter of living it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Did you forget, he did have the book: HNHN.? Are you sure he didn't read it??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Well my Dear, I wish you both a pleasant time. Enjoy yourselves and keep up with the plan A. This has made my marriage what it now is and I will never stop this. It is a lifetime committment and once you start it and see the success you can seldom stop.

I also feel very happy for your H. From what my H once told me, it is a "heavenly" feeling. Knowing that he was doing the right thing and being able to be honest. No reasons to "lie" and no more "sneakiness". He was then able to sleep like a "baby" again as he hadn't slept good for months.
When he was able to see me as I really was, he just couldn't understand what he had done. When the fog lifted and withdrawel was over, nothing of the past made sence anymore.

G_C as I said, I am so happy for you and I know everything will be fine. You are going to have the best hubby you can imagine, believe me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Let me give you a hug and give your H one too, he really deserves it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

bb

Hey GC, thank you so much for updating us. I'm so happy for you, I can't even begin to tell ya!!

Maybe, after you've reconciled for a while, you guys could renew your vows. Just an idea...

Anyway, keep up the good work, and remember... baby steps <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

GC: Congratulations!! Your updates brought tears to my eyes. Who would think reading about a couple watching a video and relaxing could be so emotional!!

How wonderful for you. Fantastic!!

I wish you all the best and come back and keep updating us.

GC,

What wonderful news! Blessings on you both for the recovery ahead. Keep looking up ,God Bless you both.

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<small>[ October 23, 2002, 04:14 PM: Message edited by: relate ]</small>

Wonder how you are doing?

thanks everyone!!! H went to bed a few minutes ago, he has to get up early.

Things are still going well, sometimes I think too well. He had a little bit of a meltdown today, I consoled him, and he is much bettter, he apologized, and said he loved me and this is where he wants to be but just has his moments.

We discussed the no contact issue again with OW, and he agrees, and also realizes that any contact at all will backtrack our progress. I asked when was the last time he had contact with her and it was 2 weeks ago (during defog stage), and she had sent him a pretty nasty email, mad because he was coming home.

I did talk to one of my friends the other day. she is actually H's best friend's wife. She had mentioned to me that he has been hinting about coming home for a long time now, but she did not want to tell me, which is understandable.

I'm trying not to push, but know we need to get into counseling, theres a Christian marriage counselor at my church who is familiar with the Harley principles that I am thinking about going to, would be cheaper than Steve.