Ok yesterday I was "hopelessfool". I was asked to change my name so I did. I just don't know what to do anymore. He tells me he isn't going to have any contact with her. He has told me that for about 2 months now. I found out earlier this week that he has talked to her and I know of one occasion that him and a friend went by so that friend could meet someone. He doesn't understand why that hurt me so much or why I had a problem with it. He "made a mistake", he said. "Used poor judgement". But nothing happened. They were only there for a minute. Casual conversation and that was it. Biggest mistake for me I guess is that I have had email conversations with her. She has told me that he has picked me and that he wants to stay married that he can't imagine not seeing Asia and Jordan (our 8 month old and our 3 yr old) everyday and being with them. It warmed my heart to hear this. But why is he even talking to her. This is someone who is obsessed with him whether the A is real, ongoing or what have you. He says they had an encounter years ago and they have been nothing but friends since. But she insists they have been more but not as of lately. I don't know who to believe. I have caught both of them in lies. I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I want him to be honest, respectful and faithful. Righ now I don't feel any of that. He doesn't appreciate me and I don't believe anything he says. I call him and is obviously on the other line, I ask who he talking to, he tells me and I don't believe him. Everything is under suspicion. I don't like being like this. I am bitter and angry. I don't know how to let go and be me again. I find myself somewhat back to normal, if that's possible, and then something happens like and email or her name is on Caller ID when I get home from work. I'm sure she has called way more than I know but he almost always erases caller id before I can get to it.