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#1034794 10/20/02 06:28 PM
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She told me yesterday that I am using techniques (from books I've been reading) to win her back. She feels that in a way I am using her because I am doing this without her knowledge. She also feels that I am wasting my time because she's decided she wants a divorce. She thinks these changes are temporary, that if I win her back I'd go back to my old self. She says I can't change the behaviors and attitudes she dislikes about me.

I told her a couple of things. First, that the changes I am making are designed to better myself. They are a way to replace attitudes which I am not happy with. Secondly, that time will tell if my changes are temporary or permanent.

Am I being that obvious? Has anyone run into this before?
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#1034795 10/22/02 01:32 AM
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yes, more bully babble tactics.

Tell her that yes you are bettering yourself but not sure if it is for her or not.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by utterlyconfused:
<strong>....... She says I can't change the behaviors and attitudes she dislikes about me.

</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Another piece of babble artwork....... well maybe that's because you like those things???! Awhhhh......don't even waste your time trying to make sense out of that line!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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