My h is in total withdrawl from me. He does't want to speak or see me at all. I may not have been the perfect wife but NOTHING I did deserves this kind of treatment. I am angry. He would not like it if I told the children how he treats me during the week when they are gone. Please give me encouragement. I do not want the c to more hurt than what they are. Please pray for satan to turn loose of my h's heart.

My h left 7-01-02. Since then he wants no contact with me. He doesn't want to see me or speak to me. Would it hurt for me to write him a letter and ask him to tell me what his plans are? I am so frustrated by not being able to reach him. Any suggestions?

Iluv:

Gosh, I'm so sorry for what you're going thru. I don't remember reading your story before, so I'm sorry if I ask obvious questions.

Was your H's leaving in July due to an on-going Affair? If so, was the A admitted? Seems like he knows what he's doing is wrong, and feels guilty about it so he doesn't want to face you. That's kind'a typical behavior of WS, I'm afraid...evade, deny, justify, evade some more, etc. He probably won't face you - or his guilt - until he's forced to do so. It will happen eventually, but I know the waiting is so hard.

I'm afraid your situation is out of my realm of experience. I haven't had to deal with what you're dealing with right now. Have you read all the MB literature on this site?

Are you Plan A'ing yourself? You can't control one thing your H says or does, but you have total control over how you react and respond. You may have to look at this like a reverse-Plan B, but try to Plan A your tail off when you do have contact with him.

Maybe it would help the other posters if you provided more specific information about your situation. I really feel for you, hon. You're not alone in this. Any other MBers available to assist here?