</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Blind Sided:
Of course I haven't won! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Do you actually think I would be wasting my time talking to the little people on a website if I won? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hey I resemble that remark <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">By the way, I voted that I would split the $$ and go my own way, but I know my spouse would want to stay together and enjoy our new life together. What does that tell you? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Maybe that she fears how her friends and family, (who may have bought into her arguments that the first two were her xH's fault) may question for the first time what her contribution was to the demise of the latest marriage. It may be inconceivable for her to be thought of as the 'bad guy' in any situation by people whose opinion she cares about the most.
The fear may be greatest with regards to some family members that she may have pissed off and who (once the truth is known about her A's) will run with the truth and display it to as many people as they can, to show what a hypocrite she is.
Remember that unremorseful WS's have lied not only to their BS's but to family and friends as well, but unlike their BS's who have to endure with them before divorcing them, those same people can simply shut their doors instantly and not talk to the WS's for a long,long time.
