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As you most know my story I am really plan A'ing a storm.
QUESTION: Priest will be talking to W within a couple of weeks. Should I send him a plan A letter to give to her or record it on tape since we don't see or speak right now? Will my voice have the sincerity and caring that the letter wouldn't and do you advise this step anyway?
<small>[ October 24, 2002, 10:05 PM: Message edited by: AlanArthur ]</small>
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Alan,
In regards to your plan A letter to the priest, there may be varied opinions. Realize that his objective may not be using the same methods as yours. IMHO, let him know how you feel. Maybe a brief overview so that he may not be fooled by the manipulated words of the WS, then let him deal with it in his own way.
He is not the fix all, just one of ones that can lend a hand. Remember that he also can not help unless she cooperates.
The BS often has to learn patience. Pray for a calm heart and a clear mind.
take care,
L.
<small>[ October 25, 2002, 01:00 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>
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Alan:
The answer is don't. Controlling & manipulation are the bigest LB on her list right now. You have to stay clear from any action that could have been seen as manipulation. You know "almost" everybody is on your side, let it happens naturally. Keep your plan A letter for now ... there will be more appropriate ways & time to do that. Read the language of love on your spare time.
Also, there are many BS that is hurting out there, could you lend us a hand ?.
-RH-
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