We haven't done the NC letter yet but I have some questions. I am going to talk to H about it this weekend but I'm a little leary of doing one and sending it to her. I don't know what she will do. She has already keyed both of our cars. She did this last year. I'm afraid of what she will do if she gets a letter like that. It already seems as though she is desperately trying to reach him by phone. More "unavailable"'s yesterday and I was running late this morning and an "unavailable" called when I should have already left for work. They hung up when I said hello. I just have this gut feeling that it's her. Anyway, what to do? I don't want any trouble from her. I already know she's not very stable emotionally. I just don't know what she would do with a NC letter.

change your number now! right now! and isn't there any way you can find out who is calling? call phone company, say you're having problem with hangups that come as unavailable and ask what you can do about it. do you think your husband is truly away from her? if so, maybe no contact letter doesn't need to be sent in your case. perhaps just no contact at all is what you need to do! if you're sure about her keying car, how about restraining order? but if she's dangerous, no contact would probably be best, in my opinion, though i could be wrong...

Hey there
Its me Zoey

Well now that is more info and if I were you I would send the NC letter but file a police report to protect yourself. Its no biggie. Just go to the police station, talk with the desk sergeant, tell them there has been trouble in the past and file a report. Tell him/her your concerns

You can't prove she did it but this report on file will be good if she does something else. They will be aware and have the info.

Don't be leary. This is important. Do the NC letter and send it. Really your H should be sending it but you can both do it together.

Praying for you

How do you feel today? What nice thing did you do for yourself last night and today :-)

Zoey

Thanks Zoey. Last night I did nothing but played with my kids. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Today I dressed up a little-casual clothes, make-up done a little different and fixed my hair. My husband noticed and said I looked real goood. Wonderful boost. He hasn't been saying those things in a long time so maybe things are changing. We discussed the phone issue again and he swears he has had nc with her and that we will get the phone # changed. A major plus in our favor I think. Looking at things on a more positive not. Things don't feel so gloomy today. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I AM SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Happy for ya.

See..a little goes a long way. Keep that up. Be upbeat. Do little things like that. See..Told ou that it matters. Didn't you feel good after you dressed up a bit, did a little make up thing? It projected and he noticed. Please keep that up. You will feel so much better. I promise..

KUDOS to your H for noticing. I am so happy for you.

:-) Zoey

Watch out now..Being a new Diva and all <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

SC4H, why don't you have a call block on your phone? You shouldn't have to spend money to have your number changed. Normally all you have to do is press 2 numbers (contact your phone company to see what the code is for your area) to have any calls that don't show a phone number on your caller id from getting through. This is a FREE SERVICE TO YOU! I had the same problem, hang-up calls with number showing up as UNAVAILABLE! As soon as i put the block on my phone ofcourse they stopped! The caller has to UNBLOCK their number to call your home. Now when it says unavailable we know that is is either a creditor calling or a marketing call! Call your phone company to find out what the code is to put this feature on your phone.

Hey Trying2_4give gave a GREAT suggestion. Try that!!

Great Idea!!

Zoey