Hi BH
I'm doing better I have my triggers some days, it does get better. The Holidays was OK. I had some days I was depressed. H didn't call to say Merry Christmas or to see if I was OK. I was hurt other than that I'm OK. I decided to give him space. H said he would give counseling and reconciling some thought.
You know I feel like, I'm being treated like I'm the one that had the affair and OC. The way I'm responding to him asking about our marriagr when it should be the other way around. I believe what happened in your marrriage is affecting your daughter. I pray that everything will be OK with you keep in touch.
LOU
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Malc, sorry if I'm confused, but I never knew your story. Just read this post.
Your H was gone for 2 yrs? Had baby with OW?
Are you back together or trying?
For me, if mine left with OW for 2 yrs, the divorce would have started as soon as he left out the door!
Why are you still in love with this man who could do this to you and leave you for so long?
If I'm off base, forgive me, I'm only going on what I've just read here.
Not all men are jerks. So don't keep yourself hid away. There are still some good men out there!
LouLou </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You are OK, you asked the million dollar question.
I have no real answers to none of these question.
I know I love him, Why I still do after all that has happened, I quess I really loved him from the begining and inspite of what he has done. I'm not in denial about my feelings towards him nor did it change how I felt towards him.
Am I angry? Yes indeed. Do I resent him? definitly
this has harden my heart towards all relationships.Maybe it's fear of meeting someone and this happeneing again. I know all of this may sound crazy to you, but as you can see I'm still trying to figure this one out.
Maybe it could be some childhood issues of letting go I'm not clear yet. I do verbalize how I feel. Believe me all the questions you have asked, I've asked myself. If it was that easy I would have been gone. No we are not together he lives in another state.
He and ow are no longer together, she married three wks after they broke up. We were communicating well at first, until I found out he still visit OW and OC and her H. I asked him what kind of sick stuff is this.
I guess H feels I'm suppose to except oc. My biggest problems with this is, his family nor I believe this child is his. H won't get a DNA test. It's just very chaotic and I ask myself why would I want to be apart of this. I still haven't figured this one out.
