I moved most of my things out this weekend.
My WH is still acting very strange. One minute he asks if he has been doing better on his game, spending less time etc. The next minute he is working on helping ow with an essay while chatting online to her.
I am so tired of his flaunting it in my face. He said nothing as I moved almost everything into storage. I was thinking I should still schedule his appt with Steve that he agreed to.
I didn't want to make any concrete decisions until he had talked to Steve.
I am uncertain because I thinked I plan a'd too long. I think his love bank is empty.
I can't imagine staying with someone who would willingly treat me this way.
He keeps telling me I deserve someone better than him. For awhile I thought, no I deserve to be treated better by you.
Now I am starting to wonder if maybe he is right.
What do you guys think?
Any input would be fabulous.
Hugs,
Layli

Layli, I don't think by you plan A'ing too long that HIS love bank would go empty. He still sounds very very in the fog to me. You said yourself, he's totally contradicting himself. That's fog for ya. You've done your job...you've left him with nothing bad to say about you. He's caught in the double life...reality vs internet. It will catch up with him, and you shouldn't be there when he falls. Let him get uncomfortable and come to the realization of what he's done. Take good good care of yourself...and good for you for making a move!

Hi, Layli.

I have to agree with Hope4future. You've done all you can do, and your H is still so deep in the fog he can't seem to move. I'm sure others may disagree, but I think you need to be totally away from him for a while to preserve what little love you have left for him -- and the respect you have for yourself. Not to mention your sanity!

You'll be o.k. It's just impossible to reason with someone who's totally unreasonable. You've focused on your H and your marriage so well for so long...maybe it's time to focus on your own personal healing for a while.

Best of luck to you in whatever you decide.

Lori

{{{{{{Layli}}}}}}}}}

I've been thinking alot about you lately and was wondering how you've been doing.

Remember that Plan A and Plan B are really for YOU. Looking back on my Plan A, I think I should have moved to B alot sooner - FOR ME. I don't think it would have helped us out any more, but it would have helped me stay strong when he started throwing the $hit my way towards the end of the divorce.

Hang in there and take care of you. See a therapist for you for individual counseling. Many insurances cover them and if not there are many places that use a sliding scale fee if money is tight. Find someone you feel comfortable with - and do this for you. It helped me tremendously in my recovery.

Please keep in touch.

Hugs,
Llama