It depends, you can be honest with how you're feeling. Just don't forget to talk in an non LB'ing way.
Something like: It hurts my feelings that ....
So don't try to blame, just tell how you're feeling.
Here are some communication rules you can use, I picked them up in a post on MB.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Rule one: if you must use the words "you" or "wife" as the subject or topic of a sentence, make the sentence only a question. . . .
ie.: "W, what is the financial situation that we are seeing at the moment?"
Rule two: when you want to respond to a question or discussion, use word "i" or "Craig" as the topic of the sentence, followed by the words, "believe, feel, think" and state what you believe, feel or think without any references to your Wife. . . . or make a suggestion as to how you would solve the problem . . .
Rule three:never, ever use the sentence that has the the structure of: I feel that you . . . . . because you are violating rule 2, and abusing basic english language structure, and it is a disresptful judgement (three strikes, you're out!). . . the simplist structure to a feeling response is a three word sentence, I feel ……
if you can't put the words into that format, start over. . . and if you won't do it, then you have a control issue. . . . pure and simple, and you haven't learned to be in touch with your feelings. . .
Rule 4: If someone is not calm or rational, hang up, leave and state that you will not discuss solutions until everyone is calm and willing to listen. . . yourself included.
Rule 5: opinions are like [censored], everyone has one and they usually stink. . . but we all have one, and they are all equal to one another. . . unless you are in a business or hierarctical situation, which i don't recall you or your wife saying that you were in. . . . so if you don't like or agree with her's, that's fine, you don't have to, but you have to respect it or else she won't respect yours, which is what you are getting by your responses. . . . . . which brings me tothe goldenrule. . . treat everyone else like you want to be treated
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