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To tell or not to tell...now?
#1036393 10/29/02 12:32 PM
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After, a 2-month separation and apparently several "affairs" or dating individually, Do we tell each other about it all in vague terms, in detail, or not at all yet? Just back together one week. Guilt, anger, resentments, seem to be between us. Should we clear the air or shelf it all. What to do? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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I think you need to be honest with each other. It may work right now by not telling but in the long run the guilt will eat you up inside. If you are honest with each other and can get through this your marriage will only be stronger.
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Wow, several affairs while separated only 2 mos? I have to ask....why are you married anyway. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but separation means you are STILL married. Yes, you need to come clean. You've exposed each other to the threat of stds, I hope you both get checked. Good luck
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hmmm...have to admit I'm kinda with Maggierose on this one...but...if you want your marriage to survive...honesty is a good beginning. As for details...maybe not. Sounds as if you both took this 2 month period as free time...if both of you understood it for such...then admitting that there were others for both...might be plenty of information. But, do get a clean bill of health for there are some things out there that don't just "go away".

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