It's now been almost 7 months since my XH and I separated and almost 3 months since our divorce was final.

I came to MB as a very scared and unstable BS - as I think we all did. I received notable advice and support from so many - WAT, Cali, Layli, Sad Princess, Faith1, Lor, Orchid, Love Her Madly, Former Hopeless One, Spacecase, Milli, Fingers and many many more.

I drop in every so often and I was just taken aback by some of the recent comments on this board.

First and foremost, no matter what our situation is, no one deserves to be treated disrespectfully. We all have our own situations and none of us should receive any more special attention than others.

Yes, it's true, many of you told me things that were hard to read - but they were true and I know that it was out of support and concern that you posted your thoughts.

I'm making it now - and I know I would had I not met any of you fine people, but the process would have probably been much much slower. I needed a good kick in the rear every once in a while. Your comments and support helped force me to take a good look at ME and what I wanted.

So, now an update - I'm in the early tribunal process for an annulment - which has been very healing for me. I'm done with therapy for now - my therapist says I'm healthy emotionally and physically and only need to come back if I feel I need a "booster" shot. I'm almost finished with the refinancing of my house which is the last part of the divorce that I'm responsible for. My closing date is one week from tomorrow.

I'm working out, eating better, taking vitamins and feeling good. Work is going well and I've even received some cool job offers that I'm going to consider. The pooch is happy and healthy. We are giving out halloween candy and then going to a friends house for a chili cookoff.

Haven't heard from XH in almost two weeks. I had to write him and tell him to quit harassing me. He moved out of town and I don't know (nor do I care) about his wherabouts.

I've also realized that we had some extremely deep rooted problems in our relationship that would never get better until my XH faced himself. They were serious enough and I realize now that I should not have gotten married.

I'm not sad anymore - I don't cry anymore (only when a sad movie is on Lifetime and I'd be crying anyway, lol). I'm loving myself and feeling great.

I just want to say that no matter what your situation is - whether you stay together or not - that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I thank you all - for all your comments, suggestions and support you gave me over my troubled time this year.

I look forward to a peaceful holiday season and can't wait to begin a new year with the new (and improved) me!

Llama Hhugs Tto Eeveryone! Keep up the great work. Come visit me on the D/D board and say hi sometime.

Llama

Dear Llama,

So good to hear from you. Reading your post gave me goose bumps.

You sound stronger, healthier and happier. I am glad.

Well as we all know the WS ways do not make one stronger, healthier nor happier. Time tells all and hearing your story emphasizes that fact. Thanks for sharing and please, do not be a stranger around here.

Your input is just as important and your story here shows that the plans A and B and MB concepts work. Because they are for our personal improvement. If the WS choose not to participate, it is their loss and in some cases the death nil of the M but not the surviving BS. Now you are able to move forward and probably smiling a lot more than the WS. They now get to make their misery a reality. The 2 don't mix well. Glad you are out of his harm's way. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

take care,
L.

Oh Orchid -
Your words mean and have always meant SO much to me. Thanks for posting. Glad you are doing well to.
Hugs,
Llama

llama - you sound terrific! I wish you continued success with your recovery. Like me, MB principles and this forum helped you to help yourself. We are MUCH better off than our former spouses. Sadly, they may never catch up.

Thanks WAT - I think you were the very first person to ever post to me. Glad you are doing well too. I keep up on your posts whenever I see them.

Llama Hhugs,
Llama

llama-

It's good to hear that you're doing so well. Maybe you could provide a few more details on the DD board about the whole annulment process as that's something I'm going to have to consider in the near future. It's encouraging to see other BS's doing well.

Thx- G

Hi Llama: I just popped in here for a few minutes today and saw your thread. Very nicely said. You're doing great. An inspiration to us all!!!!

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Fingers my friend - thank you. You've been a great pal!

Litchfield - I'm in the early process of annulment, but I'll post what's happened thus far on the D/D board. Thanks for your message.

Llama