I posted a topic earlier today about the OW emailing me and filling my mind with doubt about my recovery w/ my WH. I read your LONG story post about what you experienced and I was truly inspired! What an amazing, strong woman you are!

I'm asking for some advice from you, because we are only 1 1/2 year into our marriage and my WH's A w/ his co-worker just ended (supposedly) in August. They still work together and she contacts him outside of work and just sent me an email saying we don't have a real marriage. My H has gone to counseling w/ me but won't quit his job. He's always said he still loves me but not a lot of changes going on so far (just discovered the A on 09/10).

I'm trying to put this in God's hands but my mind is filled with so much doubt. He seems lost and often suffers depression (that has been ongoing much of his life). Everyone says in order for us to start on a full recovery he's got to stop contact w/ her...so far he hasn't and as I said...he won't quit his job, he likes his job and is fearful of being unemployed, I'm also wondering if he still likes being w/ her even though he's said its a bit more uncomfortable now. But then 2 weeks ago he said he thought he loved her too but didn't know and couldn't think of reasons why other than "she doesn't argue w/ me and would do anything for me" (yeh, right) No serious talks of divorce...yet. He's not sure he should be married , he's not good at it but he loves me, blah, blah, blah...NOW he says things like "she has her own agenda" or whatever. I'm not sure what is true anymore? But she keeps at it and its like I'm in competition for my own H! What do you suggest we do? How can I get though this like you did? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

I want to save my marriage and make it better! I want her out of our lives!!