Hi Maw,

I posted to you on the thread named "To Honey" but I probably should have done it on a new thread instead.

Btw--like you, I have learned a lot about myself by following Honey's posts and am grateful to those who post back and forth with her--the different ways that people try to help and support Honey has helped me to identify and start changing some of my own ineffective head-banging-the-brick-wall ways with my FWS (who is unwilling to start a recovery plan that we had agreed on).

I also offended Honey a while back when the type of support I offered was not the kind of support that she finds helpful, so I apologized and told her that I would respect her request that I refrain from posting to her. I still follow her story and continue to keep her and her family in my prayers.

Maw, thank you for sharing yourself in your posts. I am learning things about myself that are not easy to look at but are things I need to know, and you are one of the people who is giving me the courage it takes to do that.

Take care.

Yet Again - Thank you very much - its funny but I never think of my situation as helping people - Most of my friends think that I am a sucker - though divorced legally I still somewhat let him come around and I know that isn't right - but sometimes it is ok with me and other times it is just so hard - I mean coming to grips with basically being let go after all of those years - then in the process being basically blamed for it - because I would never forgive him which is crap - I know that it is over - I mean I am divorced but it is still hard - I need to accept and find myself - I post to Honey but she never wants to hear what I am saying - sometimes I just want to shake her and say wake up - I mean I really try not to be like her - though what she is doing might be working for her - I don't think from reading her posts it is good for her children - but I can only give my opinion - There are so many inconsistancys - Actually what I wish for more than anything in my next relationship - if I ever have one - is a grown up who cares about me and my kids and or his kids also - as #1 - and I really don't think that is to much to ask???