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Big talk with OP tonight...feelings amuk..
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<small>[ November 07, 2002, 11:52 AM: Message edited by: Wen ]</small>
Re: Big talk with OP tonight...feelings amuk..
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It hurts because you've lost something meaningful. This is grieving pain. Don't try to stop the pain ... it's a doorway you must pass through to enter the next room. Allow yourself to feel this way without self-criticism ... Know this: your painful feelings of grief are temporary.

Blessings and prayers

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Wen,

I don't have much time, but your post moved me. I'm sorry you feel so bad.

Take care and try to stay strong.

Lisa
Re: Big talk with OP tonight...feelings amuk..
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Wen,

You know you do the right thing and focus on that one. About OP, regardless what you say you should not talk and should maintain NC !. You were/are in-love w/ OP, it will take sometime to let that feeling go away. Stay stong and make a leap and guard yourself. Also, AD medicine would help you out.

-rh-
Re: Big talk with OP tonight...feelings amuk..
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"A slave to a falsehood"

What an insightful remark!

Instead of a "slave" .... how would you choose to present yourself?

You have a choice of who you want to be.

You do not have to choose to please other people!

You are responsible for the integrity of your choices. You are not responsible for others' reactions to your decisions.

Look at your integrity .... therin lies your freedom!

Pep

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