I am not talking about being honest with your BS. I am talking about telling freinds. I have been feeling like I want to talk it over with a neutral party. My best friend knows, but honestly she was not exactly as supportive as she should have been. SHe was just as 'excited' *vomit* as I was. Christ we were like giddy school girls. ANYWAYS not that I am blaming her, but geeze she certainly wasn't there to smack me back into reality.

But I have a close freind I wanted to share it with. I feel like letting it out and I can't with dh . Do you think this is a good idea? Thanks

Maybe! Before you begin sharing private information about the marriage...make sure that your spouse agrees with you and who you're going to be talking to. This is between you and your H, and you need to make sure that he is in agreement with who knows and who doesn't.

As for this other friend...yes, she may have become "infected" with your excitement...but a really caring friend would have warned you what you might be letting yourself in for. A friend doesn't tell you want to do or not to do...but they also try to protect you against others...and even against yourself.

If there hadn't been certain people that I could lean on and trust and wouldn't judge me or my situation, I don't think I would have coped during the first 3 months after d-day.

Just my opinion, but if there is someone you have in mind, ask you H if he minds, (and you feel it is best to let him know). My H knew that there would be one or two people I would speak to for support, as he has done.

Hope your do goes OK and seeing OM. Am sure it will be difficult for you, but you have made your decision to be with your H, remember that and how important it is to you.

Good luck.

Lisa

P.S. As a former WS I know how awful you feel about yourself and what you have done, but your name "Nobody Special" is cruel to you - you've made a BIG mistake, but you are trying your hardest to put that right now.

First off. I am a Marine too. I thank that if you want to really talk about this that maybe you would consider going to the Chaplain. He can give you a confidential place to go and talk it out.

I agree with Lisa. You are someone special. Everyone is special in there own way. Yes, you made a mistake, but you saw that and are trying to do the right thing.

Indy

thank you everyone for your suppport. It means so much to be able to come here!

INDY we have been seeing the Chaplian as our MC. He has helped us tremendously. He is a great guy!

But I was hoping to tell a freind. I don't know why, but I have this urge to tell her. Actually I resigned as the key VOlunteer Coordinator over this( I did not think it was appropreate for me to hold that position, or put myself at H work moe often with OM there) and she is Preseidant of the wives club, so I never really gave her an explaination of why I had to quit.

i will ask dh about it thought before I say anything.

On the name, yes I felt pretty darn ****ty after I realized what I had done. I still struggle with guilt every day of what I did to my poor H:cry. I hate myself for it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
But I will change my name, some time, when I can find one that matches my situation!

Thanks again

I thank that is great that you have been seeing the Chaplain. They are great people. Your last relpy made me sudder alittle bit. My WS was a Key Volunteer to and I agree with what you did by stepping down. I thank that being a Marine Wife is the hardest job in the Corps. Thinking about telling her about the situation maybe a mistake. I know that she may be a very good friend to you, but I wonder if you have thought about it this way. You have been in the military long enough to know that the rumor mill works overtime and I ask as a Marine that understands your H side of it to be careful. When this happened to me that I felt like I didn't diserve to wear the uniform anymore, because I couldn't keep the integraty of my household. Then how could I be asked to do it as a leader of Marines. I just want you to be careful with this.

Indy