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should I tell H that OM contacted me?
#1038793 11/07/02 09:06 PM
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Om contacted me with a Hello thru Yahoo Messanger. Should I tell H? I totally freaked out and now I am really freaking because of tomarrow the MArine Corps ball I will see him there, and I was hoping he would have forgotten about me as much as I had him , and now this stupid farking Im has got me thinking BAD things again. There was just 2 hellos and then I asked "what do you want " and that was it.

I am so worried about tomarrow now... all my thoughts are of OM being there!!?!?!!?! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Please help me someone!!!!!

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Tell your H.

You two are a team and it doesn't work if only one of the team knows what is going on. THis guy needs to get seriously cashed out of the military.

God Bless,

JL
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Tell, and tell right away.

If he finds out later....he will think you were hiding it from him. Believe me I know.

Love and light,

Jacky
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thanks I did and I feel much better. H took it much better then i thought he would. I thought he would be livid and the last 2mos of recovery would go back to D-Day. I did tell him that and he said , it would have if I did not tell him at all.

Phew! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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You did the right thing, and you likely made a deposit in the trust vault (located next door to the lovebank <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ).
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I agree that you did the right thing telling your H. That helped you develope some trust on the issue. Just like you would tell him if there was a problem with your car or something, because he can't help you with it if he doesn't know about it.

How was the Birthday Ball? Did things go ok?

Indy

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thnaks for asking, the MC ball went great. OM was not there and we were able to enjoy our selves. H later confessed he was going to crack OM over the head with the rum bottle we had brought <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> so good things he wasn't there. However I am sure H will say something once he gets back to work,hopefully sans rum bottle.
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I am glad that you had a good time at the Ball. I remember before any of this happened that the ball was the highlight of our year. It is kind of like going to the prom all over again. Does your H work with the OM? He needs to be careful with how he handles this. He can't allow it to interfer with his job. If he would like to talk about anything about anything let me know.

Indy

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