Hi,

I saw this in a different thread.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> If your H is cold and distant and picking fights with you its a sure sign that they are still talking to the OW. Take care- lifeismessy
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So, this explains alot. Things were going well for awhile, and bam, the above behavior started. I started thinking that maybe it was over. Maybe they took a break from each other and are back at it.

Gee, I could be wrong on this, but I thought it was also a sign when WH is being especially nice and desirous of SF that he/she is still cheating. Point being that guilt is motivating the behavior to "make it up" to BS. I'm not sure anything is a clear sign unless WS tells you. Of course, I like to go by my gut feelings, too.

Sorry if it's true, take care.

My gut tells me, he seeing her. When things are good, then I don't worry. When he is like this, then It tells me something is up.

Of course, he has also been good when he wants something. I really get concerned when the flowers show up. The last time he gave me flowers just because, was when I told him I was PG with #1 son. Okay, that was the last time he did anything really nice other than this past mothers day. I finally got what I wanted.

Now, we will see if he comes through for 5th anniversay coming up in December. I dont' have a diamond ring. I want an anniversary band. Does not have to be an expensive one. All I have is a gold wedding band, no engagement ring.

Hi Sue-I hope those signs I mentioned will be good clues to your WH's continuing contact. I know in my case my H tried everything he could think of to make our marriage seem hopeless and he wanted ME to be the one to file for D so that he could lessen his guilt when he left me for OW. No WAY was I going to make it easy for him to end our marriage!Every time he brought up the D topic or started in about how our marriage was 'hopeless' I told him I definitely did not agree with that and wouldn't discuss it further. I had asked him to move out of our home 2 wks after d-day when I found out he hadn't ended things. A few wks later he moved back home saying he wanted us to work things out. That evolved into about another month of him sleeping on the couch downstairs and behaving coldly. That was when I discovered that had been talking on his cell phone even though she had moved to another state for a job promotion. He was not able to finally end things once and for all until he asked my counselor for help on how to do it.It was like an addiction to him and OW knew all his weak spots and how to manipulate him and make him feel guilty. I hope your H will be strong enough to end contact for good. My H kept thinking he could just be 'friends' with her and that is never possible after such as strong EA/PA fantasy world as they were in. Take care- lifeismessy