WH has terminated the A with OW. It was a year long EA which resulted in a six month PA toward the end.
However after a month of NC he has now told me he wishes to resume a platonic social friendship with OW, as he misses her company socially. (They shared a lot of mutual friends and attended a lot of social events together)

He insists he has informed her that he will accept a *friendship* and nothing more now and that it is her choice whether to accept these terms.

Do I have a right to be worried about this? It makes me nervous and I am concerned any contact at all with OW would be a negative and distracting influence to our (his) efforts at recommitting and sorting out our problems.

Is it safe to agree with his wishes to do this? Perhaps its harmless and I am just being over sensitive? Should I insist on a continuing NC?

I can't decide whether this is his sneaky way of trying to initiate an EA/PA again with OW - i.e perhaps he isn't over her yet?

You're not being unreasonable! He's still in the fog and doesn't get it. Continued friendship would be a continued EA. Besides, he wasn't able to keep it at friends the first time, why should you trust him to do so now? Be patient, he's in withdrawal. But insist on no contact! Who's feelings are more important to him? Yours or hers? Remind him that continued contact continues to hurt you.
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Nothing less than no contact will enable your marriage to recover. He cannot get over her if they are still in contact. They are not friends and never can be. His continued contact will cause nothing but pain for you and surely he does not want to cause this?

Here is some good reading on the subject:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5033e_qa.html

<small>[ November 09, 2002, 08:42 AM: Message edited by: MelodyLane ]</small>

You are NOT being unreasonable. Yes, you have every reason to worry about this. NC is preferrable if at all possible.

The good thing about your post is that he did tell you...the bad thing is that he didn't discuss this before doing it.

You might want to make a wider circle of social contacts and began making your lives more active in a social setting. Maybe it's the interaction with a wide range of people that he is missing. You just need to be the partner while at these social events.