Will this work? Is it even in the realm of possibilities? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Hi,
I guess it could work if YOU also want to have an open-marriage. DO YOU???? I just think that it would be very hard to do that. Besides, knowing that your WS has feelings for this OP, not just having sex would destroy me, but you may be different.

Good luck! I am sorry to hear that you are even considering this as an option! Please do what is best for YOU!!!

PQ

Open Marriage....hmmmmm

Anyone else think that looks and sounds like an "oxymoron"?

Always,
committed

The whole point of a POJA is agreement...with heartfelt and acceptance. So, if you and your spouse have reached an agreement wherein both of your wants/needs are addressed and met...then sure it could work. But, that's an awfully big IF when dealing with a subject such as having an open marriage. Most couples can't do this over the long run. It's possible, but not likely.

Quite often it seems that the one who so wants an "extra partner or so" discovers that when their legal partner also has this option...it's not as enjoyable as they expected. jmho

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by moving4word:
<strong>Will this work? Is it even in the realm of possibilities? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If you and your W have an emotional connection to one another then the answer is NO.

Often times the enthusiastic supporter of an open M (usually the H) ends up regretting his 'dream come true' arrangement because the initially reluctant spouse (usually the W) becomes so 'succesfull' with their new lifestyle.

On the other hand, if both of you entered into M out of a purely business or financial purpose and have no emotional desire for one another, then the answer is MAYBE. I say maybe because if one or the other finds somebody that s/he cares very deeply about, the desire to be with the OP will be overwhelming and the M will be a painful yoke that becomes unbearable, even if the financial benefits of it are great.

If open marriages were a good answer for couples, then there would be more of them and their numbers would be impossible to ignore. But since human beings are rational/emotional territorial creatures, open marriages are anathema to our nature.