Well, that is a good possibility. What hurt a lot was the fact that after I discovered the EA, granted I did LB a bit but not a LOT, I forgave, but she STILL moved it up to a PA.

OM may be backpedaling a bit, yes, but his correspondance still indicates he is very interested, and he continues to reassure her that he wants to be involved with her, he just wants to "ease" into it -- But of course he's willing to have sex with her immediately and she's been more than willing (if not the aggressor).

I can't say for sure what will happen with her and OM next. I know she is a girl who needs a lot of care and comfort, and the true test will be to see if he can give her that. The distressing thing she told me is that she would be happy to just have him as a friend and have casual sex all the time as well. Though that may or may not be the case. She may need more right now.

All that being said, it will still be interesting to see what happens, I guess. I just know she is in a hurry to file Dv papers and if she does, I will comply with the no-fault as we agreed to spare lawyer fees. I am not going to fight her on that at all.

Well, she'll be home to move things soon, I will Plan A and not mention anything I know as you have suggested. You're right, it will be hard to see a different side of her tonight after knowing all she has been saying to OM all day. But I will do my best.

Will drop by later with more. Thank you everyone.

ALS