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OK OK OK OK. Could someone please tellme what just happened. I wrote my WW wife a long letter about us and my committment to our marriage. I was talking to her because I was dropping off our daughter to her. OM was 2 parking spaces away. I read her the letter and gave it to her. She got teary eyed and gave me a hug. I then helped her get the rest of our daughters things. OM just sat there looking disgusted. I then was going to tell her goodbye. She walked me back to my car hugged me said she loved me and gave me a kiss. OM WAS PISSED. Did she just have a break in the fog? She still left with him and I am still alone but I wonder if I got through to her at all. I hope this ends soon.
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wrngler: I don't know your story (other than your sig line), but would just say this: Try not 2 think about what this all means. WSs don't make sense, because they CAN'T make sense. "Sense" goes out the window when the fog rolls in!! But it's cool that she said she loves you and gave you a kiss (and it tweaked OM's gain knob!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ). It could still take quite a while for her 2 come 2 her senses, but she does have 2 do that on her own... ...I hope your D is safe. I would hate for her 2 feel the wrath of OM when he gets tired of his GF "loving her H" and can't hide his frustration in front of your D. All my best,
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"That" was typical WS behavior.
Put a notch in your belt, but don't expect anything to stick so easily.
Sorry to be so negative, but you're in this for the long haul and individual incidents do not recovery make.
She's following the WS script exactly. Strap on your seatbelt and hunker down. I promise it'll get curiouser and stranger.
Remember Rule #1 - you are not dealing with a rational person and your normal thought processes won't serve you.
But, you did a good Plan A job. Keep doing it, over and over and over. This is what will give you a chance to recover your marriage. Do not focus on OM or his reaction. Focus on what's right for your daughter and yourself. Keep the moral high ground and NO LBs!!!!!!!!!!!
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My daughter is safe I'm sure of that. My WW wanted to see her and so I was willing to let her. I phone every few hours to check in on her. OM has his son from a previous marriage with them also. I just wish he would move ack home and try atleast a little bit.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by wrngler:
<strong>I phone every few hours to check in on her.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Please try to lessen this.
Your love for your daughter is not in doubt. But you need to back off from your W and OM. This sucks and there's nothing you can do about it. Children are the innocent victims.
Try to keep your distance, OK?
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My daughter is safe I'm sure of that. My WW wanted to see her and so I was willing to let her. I phone every few hours to check in on her. OM has his son from a previous marriage with them also. I just wish she would move ack home and try atleast a little bit.
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